Here we go again. Another short lived relationship.
Another “I’m not ready and you deserve better” speech.

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Do you know attachment theory from Bowlby? Honestly, for me it was eye opening, sounds like you dated a person with an avoidant attachment style, you are probably anxiously attached, you can learn how to spot these avoidant people early in dating and maybe break it off before you get your heart broken again, and obviously it is important to reflect on your behaviour as well and try to correct that so that you feel more secure

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We’re here for you. How’re you doing?

Some days better than others. I still find myself thinking about him often

How old are you? Unfortunately, I think a lot of people prioritize themselves and don't want to be distracted or constrained by a relationship until early to mid 30s.

About to be 33

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