I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

Anyone else juggling having kids at home during the winter break and trying to work from home around your SO (who is also working from home). The holidays are always SO hectic at my place and I'm feeling like a failure, my mother was a perfect housewife and I'm far from it lol. Other parents struggling with this?

My partner is a cancer survivor, and I brought her in to talk to my kids. I had her stay for one of our GSA meetings and did something I have never done before--I answered questions about our journey together. It felt very liberating, but still scary.

What's something your SO could say/do that would make you feel great?

For me- I tell mine often how handsome he is and don't hear it reciprocated much. (I know he thinks I'm beautiful, but we know it's nice to hear it.❤)

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

Ive been in a relationship for 7 months. We met 4+ years ago but it didn't go anywhere at that time. We kept running into each other throughout the years and stayed cordial. When we started talking again this time around, I had flat out asked him about many things including education. Contd.

How do single folks (living with roommates) in San Francisco/NYC areas arrange for their parents’ stay with them, when they are visiting from home countries? Want to have my retired parents come and stay with me in 2022 for 2-3 months and looking for creative ideas to make their stay comfortable. Thank you :)

Advice needed please 🙏🏻 for datings apps: when should one reveal that one has a kid?? I’m 38F with a 5 year old and I get the impression men run miles from me

Eldest son in a family of 7. Dad's done so much and mom gave her life raising us. Dad drives a taxi and it's a dying business because of ride share apps. on bad days I just want to move out and live on my own. Am I selfish for thinking this? Would it be selfish if I move out. I've done so much for the family ever since we migrated here 10 yours ago and family brushes it off like it was nothing. I've had a job since I was 12 y/o.

At this moment, I am almost depressed. I am in a relationship with this guy for 2 years now. In the past 2 years, we have fought more than we have lived days with peace. We both have high ego problems because of which it’s really hard to resolve a conflict. Things have recently escalated to calling names/swearing and even physically abuse from both sides. We both want to end the relationship, have tried so many times, but we cannot.

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my boyfriend admitted to me today that he feels like my stomach is "bigger than he initially thought". we met on a dating app and have been together 4 months. he says that i looked thinner in my photos.

the pictures i had were recent/present-day so im confused. im 5'10 and a sz. 12. im definitely not skinny, but am curvy in some areas and was always comfortable with my body. i asked him if he thinks im fat or if he's not attracted to me and he says no. so im like, well why did you say that?

Anyone else have a parent with Alzheimer's? My dad is bad & getting worse by the day. My brother, sister, and I all live hundreds of miles away. It's so hard for me to see my mom deal with it. (cont.)

Hi folks, looking for recommendations of a nanny/manny or night nanny/manny. Located in Denver. Thank you!

Anyone know where to meet friends?

Is this H-1B ban actually going to happen? US embassies are closed due to the pandemic. Not sure what the EO accomplishes. I just told my cousin it isn’t worth it to come to the US right now. With the pandemic getting stupid crazy out of hand and whatnot. But not sure if I’m being short sighted and if I said anything incorrect. Thoughts? Thanks!

Burnout from long hours is having a big impact on my family and my wife is asking me to consider working part-time for a while. Financially, we would be fine. I’m worried about how few opportunities there are for part-time MEs.

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

Taking a toddler on MetroNorth... doable? Any tips? We have a 20-mo. kiddo with little train experience but are looking to venture to CT for long weekend. 2-3 hr ride.

What are some of the best books you've read for relationship advice?

I love my parents but they squabble all the time. My mom nags and my dad gets angry. Then she talks back. If I say something, they yell at me. I am not looking forward to the holidays. I wish desi parents wouldnt do this.

Going through a terrible breakup. Whenever I wake up, either in the morning or from a nap, I immediately uncontrollably cry because of the immediate thought that he is no longer next to me. The worst part is that we’re living together still (not talking or sleeping in the same room). I can’t even imagine what it will be like when we can finally break our lease. Does this feeling ever end?

Does anyone here work out at FFC Gold Coast? 🙂

Firm gives $200/yr for wellness purchases. What kind of stuff do you spend that on?

Chinese top brands phones have come a long way and are quite great.
It's unjustified how much flak they receive.

Are there any job opportunities for fresher?

Joining Google in a few weeks and assuming I will be moving to the Bay Area sometime this year. For people who have kids, what do you do about schools? My wife and I are looking to buy a place but most the public schools in the South Bay are rated terribly. It’s good to note we don’t have kids yet but are trying to think longer term. Are schools even considered in the resale value of a house? Thoughts and insights appreciated!

What ever happened to the bio-fuels that were supposed to be the Next Big Thing? You never hear about them anymore

I'll be graduating soon in Fall'22 and preparing for Data Scientist role. Please recommend some online resources to prepare from.

What do you do if you receive an offer from one company while you are still in the beginning stages of interviewing with another company? I just completed the phone screen of the second one and haven’t heard back yet but I feel very good about it).

Salary range for the following: SC in Federal. Master’s in Analytics. LSS Master Black cert. MBA from top 25. 7-8 years exp.

New SALT person here-- could someone help me out with recognizing if/when an underlying investment utilized the 163(j)? We received an underlying Federal K-1 that shows Line 13k but I can't figure out if it was utilized or not. Is that line even included taxable income to begin with? TIA!

Anyone have ideas for “digital” word work? Any ideas for PreK-8 would be appreciated.

How easy is it to transfer to another city within the firm?

Anyone attended Zenius's technical interview? I am attending for backend developer role. Interview is of 90mins. Advice will be helpful.

Trying to find some inner peace and my stupid team won’t let me.

With so much uncertainty in the economy and waves of layoffs that have hit tech especially hard... do we think there's really such a thing as a recession-proof job anymore if you're not an "essential worker"?

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

He sent me a happy birthday GIF last night. Couldn’t even be bothered to type a message. It made me happy and angry at the same time. I’m not responding.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

He left 3 weeks ago. He’s still my first thought every morning, and I think about him for hours everyday. Normal? When does it go away?

I know this is a different kind of heartbreak, but I just had to make the difficult decision to go no contact with my parents after years of toxic and narcissistic behavior. It’s a weird feeling of immense sadness but also freedom. Can anyone else relate?

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

I ran into my ex a couple days ago and it’s just all screwed with my head. We are kinda talking and he invited me to his company holiday party to be his +1.

And then he’s been ignoring me.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

Is going through a “hoe phase” an appropriate response to a break up? On one hand I think it’s good to get out of your head, but on the other hand it might be used to avoid the core issue.