I still think of my ex. It’s been 9 months since our breakup. He cheated on me and although I walked away and never looked back, I still wonder how life is treating him. I know I deserve better. Sigh.

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

Well...I've finally made it in my marriage when we are reading each other's minds.

Any advice for 25 yr old like me?

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

I had a crush on a girl. It's been almost 2 years since I confessed my feelings to her and today she told me that she likes me too.
The only issue is she's a Muslim and I'm a Hindu. She believes we don't have a future and that's why she took a long time to confess. She is confused on what to do and even I am confused because things will actually be difficult for obvious reasons.
Please advice on what we should do now.
Should we part ways or should we fight for it?

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

Random: is anyone in the same mindset as me that everything has a black or white answer and grey is just created by people that don’t want to make tough decisions? It’s a debate I have going on with my wife and some other outside parties.

What would you do if you didn’t need money? I have a fair amount coming one day and don’t actually need to work to live a good life (middle / upper-middle class). I work because of this vague notion of “ambition” and because everyone I grew up around is highly competitive and hard driving. I just feel unhappy so often and am wondering what this is all leading to. Scared I’m wasting my life being unhappy / in turmoil cause it’s what my culture wants me to do.

Been seeing a guy for the past few months. Went to watch a movie on Netflix last night and saw that my ex is in a new series. Talk about mood killer. Now I can’t stop thinking about him 😞
He tends to pop in to my head at least once a month. How can I move past this?

Just got married to a somebody I met through this bowl and I love him with everything inside me! Wanted to share that’s there’s hope for everybody!!!!

I’m currently struggling with my friend group. I’m a transplant to my current city and ended up making friends with my coworkers (who were also transplants). Now I’m regretting this as I don’t feel like the friendship is deep and things seem competitive. I feel like I have no friends and my real friends (from HS and College) are in a different state and have their own lives. Any advice on dealing with having no real friends where you live?

What are your thoughts on staying in very Indian tech community for very high prices or living in slightly less expensive school zone that’s more diverse? Looking for parents who have gone one way or other for pros and cons list

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

How to get over a girl who’s still always on your mind? Dated for 4 years, broke up beginning of July. One of those situations where you really think it’s “the one”. She has seemingly moved on pretty easily, which just hurts even more. I keep replaying scenarios in my head and wonder if there’s a chance at a future with us together again. 😔

Trying to help my retired dad - When I google for what to do after retirement, only retirement planning related things shows up. My dad has been a workaholic and hasn’t developed many hobbies he could pursue. I was wondering how I could help him stay slightly occupied if not busy. Anyone here experienced this with your parents or yourself? How did you navigate this?

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

I’m keep getting flashbacks from my previous relationship. I want to report him for domestic abuse/date rape charges but I don’t know if it’s a wise idea esp after a whole yr

I cringe when I'm at a friend's house and they answer their phone, find out it's a telemarketer, and just hang up on them. It's so rude. They know I have to cold-call people at my job and you'd think they would at least act like they were more respectful of the job.

Did we have any championships

Guys, urgent help.
Need some help in filling pre joining details for CTS. Can someone please comment down, will ping them.
Thanks 😊

Is it possible to buy a new luxury German sedan car with 30k budget?

Interested to see this group... is ENFP a particularly difficult personality for consulting? Or is there a lot of us? Intrigued as to what has triggered this bowl creation

Hi friends,

I am working in pune and got an offer frm MS bangalore loc

YOE 8.3 Y Full stack automation tester
Offer Manager 39.5 inc all + 2L JB + relocation. 5L

I have received the formal offer, not accepted yet.

Can you all plz help if senior manager is possible. Should I negotiate now or near joining date.

Lot of package nego already happened.

I am afraid that if I join as manager my annual increments won't be good as I might be at higher end of manager salary bracket. Plz advice

FAR, what a pain..that’s all

Any freelance media strategists out there? Help needed for a small/mid-sized BtoB agency.

Filed itr on 21st june, any idea when i can get the return

Anyone know of any tech jobs out there that seem complex? Ones that someone can do with zero schooling but lots of experience behind them?

Strategy Director, SF, 130k

Hello All,

I had my LTI L1 and L2 rounds and was selected.
Hr asked for documents and also had a call for salary discussion.
Now they have asked me to attend L3 interview Tomrw?
Any idea why they want to have one more round after HR discussion?
Is it common?

Is there a website that shares announcements of recent contract wins by federal contractors across all federal agencies?

Sometimes the leadership does not even inform you on the status of a submitted proposal unless we win the work. I get why they are doing it but it would be great if there was an external source/website that would share this info instead of us waiting around to hear from them.

Hello fishes, I am looking for a part time UI UX role to expand my knowledge on a single product.
Let me know if there are any opportunities available.

At this point in the game it doesn't make a difference where you at everybody is getting laid off at one point or another the only thing I say is try to repair yourself for it if it happens to you

Leads - remember to spend proportionate time leaving feedback for the folks you delegated your tasks down to this year. 1-2 sentences for a month long, complicated task isn’t enough.

Advice on how to break into a sales position or the pharmaceutical industry? I have 1 year of experience in account management/customer service for a Biotech company, a B.S. in Cell and Molecular Neuroscience with research experience, plus the organizational and communication skills needed to succeed as a sales rep.

Open to chat— any insight or referrals are much appreciated!

Did anyone watch her instagram live yesterday? I have an easter egg theory.

Hello Fishers

Can someone refer me for any of the following position in good Amsterdam based company providing visa sponsorship
- Senior to Lead DevOps Engineer
- Senior Site reliability Engineer
- Senior Platform Engineer
- Senior to Lead Cloud Engineer ( AWS)
- AWS DevOps Engineer
- Kubernetes DevOps Engineer
I have 7+ yrs of experience as DevOps SRE Engineer with tech stack: AWS, Docker, Kubernetes, Terraform, Jenkins, Gitlab, Linux, Python, Java

Notice period: 1 month

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

I’m so happy this bowl exists 🥹🫶🏼

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(