Hi folks,
An off topic question, I'm 28 years old female and currently visa processing is ongoing . My parents are pressuring to get married. Can someone someone suggest me how to handle this mental pressure and how to say no to marriage at this moment as I want to settle down in my career and they are unable to understand? Please help with your valuable inputs.

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They are right marry before too late.
28 yrs is upper limit for the females

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Do as you like. Your career is very important and dont compromise. Runaway if you want. Indian parents are Shittiest in the world when it comes to a girl child. All they want is to get them married like it's some kind of burden.

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Thanks 👍

Marry if you find the right guy who is comfortable with you going onsite.
Reject the guys that are insecure with you going to onsite.

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If she will go onsite who they will have sex with?

If u r sure of going overseas in a couple of months, then discuss with your partner to be and get it sorted, might be multiple meets, but ultimately after few choices you'll get the one you feel comfortable with, once you get things going your way, move overseas together and enjoy your life.
Ppl might say forget about parents.. No offence, but if your partner isn't comfortable after you get married / if you decide to go with your career and skip marriage, each has its own set of issues / complications. One doesn't beat another. Having said that it might not be the case for everyone, each person is unique. But from personal experience, I am married and me n my partner discuss everything and it keeps both families and us happy too, you would need your space and going abroad will definitely help the cause...
If you find a suitable groom who can understand your career goals and also personal life choices, there's nothing more you could ask for.. But just one thing, think twice, thrice, a trillion times before you decide either way!

Wish you a happy and successful life ahead! Cheers!!

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Thank you so much

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Runaway

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Yeah I felt the same 😂

Career >> marriage. Period.

Be aggressive if required, it may hurt their feelings but thats not worth marrying when u r not ready.

Best of luck

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Take a job abroad and run if not take remote work work from some other country or some other state tell them that you are moving out for better opportunity and will come naval after career is settled

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