How can I best support my husband emotionally after he was laid off last month? He's feeling so stressed and down, especially since it's the holiday season. We also just had our first baby! We have savings to get by for a few months, but it's hard because he’s usually so positive and motivated so seeing him like this is really hard. Any advice?

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Been in this boat almost exactly, same savings, but it was our 2nd child. New baby was three weeks old. I felt demolished at first, then embarrassment, shame and, above all else, scared. Very scared. More scared than I could logically comprehend until years later. At the time, this was not something I was able to convey to my wife, even if she asked. I was so caught up in the moment that I couldn’t articulate what I was actually feeling.

To make me feel better, I wish my wife would have hugged and kissed me and acknowledged the feelings I didn’t know I had by reminding me with, “Were in a moment. Tides ebb and flow. This too shall pass. And I love you.“

I wish you the best.

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Ask him regularly how he’s feeling so he feels comfortable opening up and talking to you about his emotions.

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Just give him space

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Remind him that you love him no matter what, that you know he’s trying his best, and that things will get better soon

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You’re in a tough spot, especially with a baby and the holidays. One thing that might help is reminding him that it’s okay to take things one day at a time. The stress can feel overwhelming, but having a bit of structure, even small daily goals can bring some stability.

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Give him time right now. Lots coming at him that he needs to process. Be mindful and reassure him that you’re in this together.

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If you've got some savings and finances aren't a dire emergency, you should just endeavor to enjoy the new baby and the holidays. He can take his time getting it together to put out feelers and find a new job. And there's a new year coming to do that in. Just be grateful for what you've got at the moment, and you'll be able to move forward together.

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