How do I stop comparing myself to other people.

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Get off LinkedIn.

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That is definitely true.

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"Comparison is the thief of joy."

I do it too, but I try to remind myself no two journeys are the same and we find our way on different paths at different rates. Someone else's journey doesn't necessarily impact my own, so I need to stay grounded and keep my own laser focus.

1% better each day is how I measure my progress. If I'm doing that, then things are moving along ok :)

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I am not sure how to stop but I can tell you, once you do, you will be sooooo much happier. There is no measuring stick. We're all on our own timelines and paths.

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Someone once told me “Don’t look left or right - it messes up your neck.”

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Left or right?? I'm looking UP, partner!

Everyone does this. Don't worry, it is normal to battle the need to compare! Accept that reality and just try to do better day-over-day.

Btw, I felt the 12 months-stay-at-home great human experiment was a little liberating from needing to compare with others. Albeit towards the end a lot of people switched jobs/got promoted. Lol.

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