How do y’all disconnect from work. Not like a vacation or something but when you’re done for the day or weekend? I find myself still ruminating about the past or upcoming week

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You need a life outside of work and to be more proactive about doing other things — not just work + nothing. Also logging off early enough to do something meaningfully different before bed. Sometimes the mental noise won’t fully disappear, but I’ve found this helps

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What do you have going on at home? A house full of toddlers will wipe out any opportunity to ruminate or reflect or ponder on anything at all!

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Ohhhh I remember those days 🤣 We’re currently at 4, from 8 to 9mo.

2 under 2 is so challenging because both kids require so much individual attention!

Put the work phone away.

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Can’t wait until I get an actual work phone. But the problem will be….they call the work phone first…no reply then the personal phone 🤬

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I watch the Good Mythical Morning episode of the day on YouTube. …. I promise I am a real and actual serious lawyer otherwise 🤣

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I stopped doing that by going in house. Seriously.

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Just stop checking email after a certain time and rarely check it on weekends. As a litigator at least, this is very possible and quite nice

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I don't do any work after I leave the office. I don't even think about work, I don't respond to work calls or texts, and I don't check my email. I really value work-life balance and that is the only way to actually have it.

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Do you do a hobby instead? I do not check my emails after work either but my mind is still occupied by it I guess because I lack meaningful hobbies

What is your work schedule look like in office or remote?

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Try to use the commute time as your down time to decompress

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Do something you really like after work

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Looking at watches

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You need something that turns your brain off. I do certain chores once I’m done with work and the kids are down. Throw on headphones and just get into a zen. Sometimes it’s dishes, sometimes it’s plucking weeds. 2x/week it’s lifting heavy. When both mind and body are drained I conk out HARD.

What helped me the most was (1) gaining seniority and (2) having a kid. Once I got to midlevel, I started to understand deal flow and generally understand what would come next and use my working hours to anticipate things. And as said by others, once I had a kid, weekends are completely controlled/consumed/scheduled by my child; so I’ll check emails throughout the day and clock what needs to be done, but that work can only really happen after she sleeps at night.

It’s a curse of the legal field. Lol I bought myself a camper so I can enjoy life in stress free zones. lol

I have the same issue and I think what I said and I heard over and over, and I keep thinking about strategies and things to do (because I am so scared of making mistakes or forgetting) Writing down these thoughts and dialogues helped me the most. Although I have something meaningful after work or hobbies, unless I write things down and get them out of my system I kept rumination.

It can be anything. If I keep thinking about what I should do next and my to do list, I write “Need to follow up on contract, and then schedule a meeting so that I can expedite, then write an email to X for approval.”

If I keep thinking about conversations I had with coworkers and customers (maybe because the conversation was stressful or had confrontation, or maybe because I feel like I couldve done in a different manner), then I write “I said xyz but so and so said this and that and that made me feel bothered and frustrated. I could’ve said this and reacted in more professional manner, but I could’ve not. But that is okay because I learned new things and next time I can do differently (important not to bash myself but acknowledge what happened and try to be optimistic)”

If someone acted so mean and nasty way, I write colorful words just to get it out of my system too.

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