How do you guys stay calm with toddlers? My 5 year old creates one ruckus after another. I am trying to not lose my cool 🙏 Journey to be a calmer parent.

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Fatherhood is definitely a study in patience. But if your 5 year old is acting up all the time, they also need to learn better discipline and proper behavior.

Disagree with ^ that kids can’t think. Kids are much more intelligent and fully capable of understanding things than many parents seem to think. Especially a five year old. Kids need to learn a routine and that you’re the parent and the one who’s in charge, not them.

Your kid is smart- the reason they’re always throwing a ruckus is because they’ve learned that it’s an effective way to get what they want. They need to unlearn that behavior. Get down on eye level and patiently explain to them (again and again, it takes time) why they have to do a certain something, or why you’re not buying them something, etc.

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Good advice C2! I agree and my wife does that better than I do. I will try on the eye level discussion 🙏

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The struggle is real my friend. Don’t let people BS you that they are always calm and happy all of the time. It takes work and it’s always a struggle. I don’t have answers because each of us is different but some things that I do:

Create breaks for myself during the day. It’s easy to get caught up and frustrated with the repeated behaviors that children tend to exhibit.

Try your best to let go of some external or arbitrary timelines that you have. This is big for me. Oftentimes I just want to get something done and get irritated that my little ones - I have 4 - want to be involved. Take a breath and step back. Realize that your anxiety about time is self imposed and unimportant compared to those memories with your child.

When it gets really bad? Take a deep breath and count to ten. Seriously. The last thing that you want to do is act in a way that is emotional and reactionary.

Anyway, just a few thoughts from someone who struggles with you my friend.

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Realize that kids can’t think and act like adults?

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I force myself to take a deep breath before I ever react. Kids will be kids, and causing havock is just part of it. It's overly simplified, but it just... is.

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Thanks guys! I am exploring a few minutes of meditation in my daily schedule as well.

Sorry to tell you that it does not get any easier

Yesterday I told my 4yo daughter that if she didn’t stop screaming I would lose my job and she would have to live on the street.

That didn’t really help the situation, but I felt better. She just yelled back that she didn’t care. I’m a bad parent.

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