I used to get 2-3 productive hours after the kids went to bed to catch up on work, chores, shopping, etc but now I'm struggling to have any motivation after the hour-long process of getting kids down.

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

What would you do if you didn’t need money? I have a fair amount coming one day and don’t actually need to work to live a good life (middle / upper-middle class). I work because of this vague notion of “ambition” and because everyone I grew up around is highly competitive and hard driving. I just feel unhappy so often and am wondering what this is all leading to. Scared I’m wasting my life being unhappy / in turmoil cause it’s what my culture wants me to do.

I married my gf 2 years back after a long relationship, and having disagreement from both of our parents, finally they agreed even though she is from another part of the country and from a different cast.

forward to now....
I'm just following all their rituals and ceremonies as per their customs why ???
Because they say the do like this or that, when it comes my side of things then they say oh we don't follow like that.

It's painful you know , seeing my.parents and my self helpless in that

Do any female desis who are married take care of their own parents?

After years of consciously dating toxic men because I was afraid of commitment, I’ve finally found a man who treats me well who I can imagine spending the rest of my life with. I’ve never been happier than I have in the last month.

It’s a wonderful feeling.

My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Where do we start to get ongoing professional help decluttering, organizing, cleaning, etc.? What has worked for you?

Partners, how have you managed to balance the work, obviously substantial, and your family? I see many with stay-home SO, but wondering if it is possible to prioritize family if your SO has a demanding career

Just need to vent.

My SO was going through some issues over a year ago and decided to use the counselor services provided through her workplace. She mentioned that her plan only covered some sessions so she was trying to figure how she could continue counseling. That was that.

We've been trying to better our savings now that we have a baby and I've been trying to figure out our expenses for months now but I'm always off. I finally realized a few months ago that she continued counseling. More..

This is super weird but I feel like I can’t relate easily to people. Hear me out - I moved and lived in different continents, countries every 5 years or so until now… I feel like I’m an outlier and my life is super different from anyone else’s. I have some friends I’ve met at each stage of my life, but it’s been temporary. I feel like I’m always going in a different direction than others. It makes it difficult to have a stable life and close friends..

Anyone know any good divorce lawyers in NYC?
Thanks in advance 🙇🏾‍♀️

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

What are some thoughts that get you out of your breakup sadness zone? I need to borrow them.

1. Have a better life than the one you imagined with him
2. Build a big life. Being rich and famous solves everything.
3. Mind your business. Be the main character in your story.

What are some of the nice things that your SO do for you?

I have a side gig consulting business specializing in data analytics, PowerBI, API integrations, data warehouses, and Amazon PPC. My team and I have worked with multiple top Amazon companies to do this. Anyone know someone who needs this ?! Let’s chat !

Everyone says Geico car insurance is cheap . However for me it is most expensive. I went for Allstate/State farm which were cheaper than Geico. Am I missing something?

Does anyone have the Tumi Corporate Collection Carry-on? If so, how does it compare to the other ballistic carry-ons like the alpha 3? Thanks!

If I joined verizon in June / July 2022 would I be eligible for hike in Jan 2023 / March 2023 ? What's the hike percentage like ?

Need 11 hearts to enable DM. please help me guys

Hello fishes,

I'm in dilemma so asking,

Does current market provide 18lpa package to average backend developer having YOE: 3yrs in Java, springBoot, microservices, rest,git ,springreactive

CCTC:7.7

Also is my cctc underpaid considerig current market offerings?

Please reply, honest suggestions are really required

I have an offer from vodafone. Will Vodafone give a counter offer if i show other offer letter with more lpa?

How much does an entry level Sourcing Specialist earn per year?

Have you ever snoop through your partner’s phone without them knowing? If so, did you find anything shocking?!

Does anyone have a referral for Rancho Biosciences?

What would be the expected salary in India for PhD in materials engineering with 4 years of experience?

What is the biggest piece of advice you’d give someone starting a new role/joining a new team?

How do you get experience when no one will hire you? I wouldn’t mind hanging a shingle but I feel it’d be irresponsible to do so with no experience. Unlike all of my classmates, I never landed an internship/externship in law school - had only one interview. I was a PT law student, came from a CS background, and worked in IT throughout law school. I passed the bar exam on my first try (Oct 2020) and have only had a couple interviews out of the hundreds of applications I sent out. Any suggestions?

What’s the deal with GSW?

Anyone used a Sleep Consultant before? Was it worth it? Or something I can do on my own?

Hello please join!

Early mornings became my best friend once I had kids. Managing to put 2 to 3 hrs of work Sat and Sun before they are awake means that I get to spend more time with them during the day.

My first daughter goes into kinder this upcoming year. What do parents in PA do during spring break? Our district also has a fall break. Both breaks hit during my busiest time

I am going to start my new job with Big four next week. It is my first time working in big four. I have been working in the boutique public accounting firm for so many years. Any suggestion?

FWA - worth it or not? Also, would you mind sharing what your current arrangement is or what you’ve tried in the past and what worked/didn’t work?

Audit manager here. Planning to talk to partner in charge about becoming a partner eventually. Any tips about what to ask?

This is a very depressing bowl, I have kids and think public accounting is awesome due to the flexibility!

Has any tried to do learning pods for virtual learning? How did you set it up and how is it working out?

My husband told me today that he cant handle another busy season - i.e me working all the time and he taking care of our two year old girl after his work. Cant say I blame him - but I feel drained

Starting at PwC next year... newly married (Husband) with a kid on the way. How's life going to be with a newborn as a new associate? I'm older (30) and went back to school for my CPA if that matters.

I have a whole life insurance policy for my young kids. Feel like I’m getting fee’d to death. Anyone have thoughts on this? Is it better to just invest in stocks and take my lumps with the market?

Need help! I am a working mom of 2 young kids. I have an offer for about $25k more than I make currently outside of public accounting. It’s 40 hours year round, amazing benefits, with a pension (cont)

Best advice I got in a mentoring session today "Make sure to put things on your 'don't do list' to keep you focused on the things that matter.

Going into busy season as a "step" mom of elementary age kid. Just found out today that we are getting full custody. Husband works and is in school... Advice please!

Starting to feel depressed and burnt out. Worked 30 hrs already this week, and I have a toddler and 5 mo old that doesn’t sleep through the night. Don’t think FT or reduced schedule will work (cont)

What would you do if you expressed concern to your manager about your work/life balance because you have two children in two different schools, both play sports and you’d like to ... continued below

Thinking about leaving public accounting but not sure if I’m leaving too early. First year audit manager at one of the big4 and I think I could make it to senior manager but definitely not partner. Been highly rated since I joined the firm but I feel I won’t be learning much for the next couple of years before I leave for industry. Im also married with children.

Does EY have anything to help you get connected with an au pair company?

Have any moms received ridiculous career advice from their MD or career advisor?