How do you navigate dating life with people who doesn't understand engineering/tech?

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I married my husband 10 years ago and we are still happily married. He is an artist and has no idea what engineering/tech is all about. And is so much better this way everyone has their world and our own space when it comes to it. I guess being so different we can’t argue each other because everyone has their field. This is my experience might be different for someone else.

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Same here

I kind of think it's a breath of fresh air.

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This is an interesting question. I am currently dating a nurse. We have very different career paths but that's what makes it more exciting. We sometimes talk and exchange a few key points and terms about our jobs. We respect each other's profession and that's what matters.

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Ugh, being single is hard enough but especially when you are a techie. I was fortunate to meet my partner at a tech conference in my area, so maybe try seeking out those types of networking events. I think TenderMeets is a dating site specific to engineers, too. Good luck on finding your soulmate...there are definitely a lot of us out there!

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Met my partner in university - we were studying CS together 10 years ago. Now we both navigate life being full time tech support to our family and friends lol

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Yes! If anyone ever asks do I do volunteering. Great answer lol

Honestly, I find it cute. I love explaining what we do and I feel happy when I see that they're genuinely interested. Vice versa of course.

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I don't think they need to fully know what goes on behind yiur work. It has worked well enough between me and my partner who's in an entirely different field of work. If anythung, it makes for some interesting topics when we get to sut down and talk about life. You won't run out of stories.

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I think it all depends. Everyone is different. Those who live and breathe their work are probably better off dating someone in their own field.

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I think that's where I'm at but I met someone who I really like that's in finance

Sometimes we feel like we don't want to waste time dating the 'wrong' person, but it may be worth it to give it a try and see how it goes, especially if you like this person.
I guess what's really important is that there is no magical relationship where you just meet the right one and then it's smooth sailing for eternity. Any relationship is a constant back and forth of learning, adjustment, negotiation, setting boundaries, communication, etc

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🤷‍♀️ my husband is in customer operations support (i guess i do try to teach him some scripting from time to time 😆)

I don't really need them to understand engineering/tech. I don't find it relevant. Although if they are interested to learn at least the basics I could simply explain it to them.

I purposely date outside the industry - don't want to talk shop at home!

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