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You better take at least the first two weeks off when you have a baby. It's a special time in your life and it is not easy on the mom. Be there for your family work can wait.
Why does it seem crazy to ask?
I think people tend to forget that having a child is a serious medical procures that has a lot of risks. I hope your wife is lucky and needs minimal interventions and has no tearing or other issues. However, it’s very common for healthy women to end up with tearing, pelvic floor issues, etc. Then c-sections are SURGERY. Not to mention, you typically spend a few days after the birth in the hospital so literally you’d be home for like 2 days with your wife.
You have to feed your newborn every two hours. How is your wife supposed to rest and recover if she has no support? Jesus, you chose to have a child and now it’s time you step up and fulfill your part of the responsibility.
Really seems wild you getting your panties in a bunch over someone else life. Decades ago fathers didn’t have a the right to take leave. It’s a fair question to ask. Jesus get a grip.
Does your company offer paternity leave? If so, take it. Some companies may offer paid paternity leave, but is not required under the FMLA laws in the US.
As a woman, I don't expect the world to stop spinning because I'm having a baby like some women do these days. My husband will take off what he can with pay, if he's not getting paid to be home he better be at work. The bill don't pay themselves and it's nice to see some of these people are in a privileged enough position to take FMLA and lose wages for even a week.
If you had to cut your stomach or genitals open, how much time would you want your wife to be around the house to help out?
Wow! I can't believe how many people get 16 weeks of leave! We get 12 weeks of maternity leave but we don't offer any kind of paternity leave.
It’s really a big4 circle group think. Most employers do not have even 4+ weeks of paternity leave
Wow, wish paternity leave was a thing when I had my baby. She was 8 weeks early and had to stay in NICU for two weeks. I had to get a driver to take me to the hospital to visit her because I was not cleared to drive yet and my husband didn't have paternity leave.
Unfortunately, I've heard hiring managers (COO's, SVP's, and VP's) say, "Why do they need that much time off when they didn't even have the baby?" and then get passed up for the next promotion. The fact is that companies need their employees. My honest and truthful recommendation - that I would give my own son - would be to take off as much time as is less than the next guy would take. Translation: "Understand who your manager truly "is" - no judgment, just facts - and consider if you have set-aside income, other job prospects, and everything else you need to consider - and decide how they deem your time off importance. If the deciding factor is your employer, I wouldn't advise my son more than 2 weeks. If it's other than his employer, think wisely.
We get 16 weeks off
16 weeks. That’s our paternity leave policy though. I would not take that much if I had to request it
Ah that’s weird. Terrible take but shouldn’t be deleted for that
12 weeks
My husband got zero time off. He used PTO the week I came home and then took a few days off each week for the next month so I could sleep. My kids are older so I only got 6 weeks off.
I think two weeks is a good baseline if you can swing it. So much depends on how the birth goes, which you can’t predict in advance. I took one week after my wife had our first (I worked for a company without a leave policy at the time). That was fine for us. I got 12 weeks for our second at Big Four. The big thing is making sure your wife has time to get mobile and heal up to help with long term recovery and avoid more complications.
I have 4 children, my husband only took a day each time.
I’ve never heard or seen fathers taking 4 weeks off, that said, I don’t think it’ll hurt to ask. However, only you know if it could be an Issue or not.
The first weeks are the hardest for both of you, not just your wife. You won’t get much sleep either so taking the time from work is always a good idea if you can.
I don’t like when people comment being offensive and judging what they don’t know. Only you know your situation, job benefits, & the kind of boss and/or HR you have to deal with. So use your common sense, maybe ask someone at work that may have gone through the same, & go ask what you think will work best.
Good luck & congratulations!
Maybe it was crazy to ask 10-15 years ago, not now.
Most men I know took 1 week. Not sure about all these comments, they seem rude. Paternity leave is rare. I would never expect my husband to take that much time. Nor would I ask. But if you can get another week or so.. Good luck to you. If it is a C section you should get more time though.
How much time does your company allow you to be off for a baby? and is it paid time off? If it is, take it all, or most of it.