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You better take at least the first two weeks off when you have a baby. It's a special time in your life and it is not easy on the mom. Be there for your family work can wait.
Why does it seem crazy to ask?
I think people tend to forget that having a child is a serious medical procures that has a lot of risks. I hope your wife is lucky and needs minimal interventions and has no tearing or other issues. However, it’s very common for healthy women to end up with tearing, pelvic floor issues, etc. Then c-sections are SURGERY. Not to mention, you typically spend a few days after the birth in the hospital so literally you’d be home for like 2 days with your wife.
You have to feed your newborn every two hours. How is your wife supposed to rest and recover if she has no support? Jesus, you chose to have a child and now it’s time you step up and fulfill your part of the responsibility.
Really seems wild you getting your panties in a bunch over someone else life. Decades ago fathers didn’t have a the right to take leave. It’s a fair question to ask. Jesus get a grip.
Your wife is right. She likely won’t even be able to move around normally for 2-3 weeks (closer to 6 if a c section).
If you cannot take at least 2 to 3 weeks off for this most important event for you and your family, the question you should be asking yourself is; Is this a company I want to work for?
Why would you not take time off for your family if your state and job allows for it? She carries for 9 months. Dad carries the family for life.
Whew! I thought some patriarchal rational was behind your comment. Thanks for proving me wrong.
Yes; both parents are a team!
Women get 12 plus 6-8 disability depending on birth type. My husband is big four and pretty sure he got more than 12. He took at least 8 per baby and then would take another 4 after I went back. With c sections, I was grateful to have him.
I think when you ask 1 week your supervisor will say take 4-6 weeks.
Doubt it. Outside of big4, paternity leave is often quite short.
Hell big4 only recently changed. I got 2 weeks all of 5 years ago and had to finagle my way into 2.5 weeks with some PTO.
Tax the max your firm offers for parental leave and be a good parent/spouse.
You have rights with FMLA to take time off. (if eligible) Your supervisor will have to allow the time but you'll need to submit paperwork. Speak with your HR Department. They don't have to pay you for the time you take but they have to allow it, if you are "eligible" https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fmla/final-rule/faq
Take the max amount allowed by law. Anything less, you are doing your company a favor and will get nothing in return.
I usually take every other week off for about 6 weeks and our moms helped the opposite weeks. My kids were prior to paternity leave being a thing though
Ha - maybe poor wording. I have 2 kids and we are very much done. That’s what I did with those 2 🤣
You're probably at the mercy of your employer and what they'll allow. My firm currently offers 6 weeks for dads. The most my husband ever got was 3 weeks. If your employer doesn't offer paternity leave, you may be lucky to get one, but I don't think your wife is off base to ask. Its important for you to respect your wife and her feelings on this and to be willing to have a discussion with your employer about it. What has been approved for other dads? Is there leave offered or do you need to use PTO? Find out what your options are and then discuss with your wife and your boss.
As a new mom it’s very scary being home alone with a 2-week old infant. I would say stay home on PTO for 2-weeks then see if you can WFH for 2 more making sure your wife is on primary baby duty…. WFH but being in the house will be helpful for your wife.
I took 14 of the 16 weeks off I got at Deloitte.
If I were to do this now, I've tried to take at least a month off.
Do you have parental leave? If so, take all of it, you generally can take it in chunks.
If you do not, I would plan to take at least 2 weeks. Assuming you begin your leave when wife goes into labor, you would likely burn 3-5 days before you are even home with baby so the second week would allow you to support your wife during the real adjustment. Also, some deliveries are easier than others, a rough delivery or c section will leave your wife needing more support once you are home.
My husband took about 8 weeks with our first but went back for a stent at 2 weeks and it was TOUGH. We just had baby 2 and he doesn’t have the same leave so he went back after 2 weeks - it’s hard but manageable so far.
Women heal physically and emotionally at different rates plus adjusting to the baby will take a lot of time for both of you. Most women won't be healed in a week and likely could use as much support they can get. I'd say take three weeks off as an absolute minimum.
If your company offers you an LOA, take it.
I would think a couple hours off at most.
Yeah driving to and from the hospital, plus a picture with the baby won't take more than 3 hours
Take the time off. Help your wife. Be a good partner and get up
To feed the baby, change the baby etc…
I raised my children without help the marriage did not last. We were both fulltime workers.
Depends on your work policy I suppose. My wife had almost 6 months at Deloitte. I work for myself so I was flexible with what I could do and how much time I took off. Can't hurt to ask for more time if your financial picture can afford it. That family time is certainly valuable.
Is your employer subject to the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA)? If they are you have the right to take that time.