I am devastated. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years we were taking about getting married and having kids. Then I discovered he was also in another relationship - 2 years in.
He promised her all the same sweet stuff. I'm trying not to be too hard on myself but I'm not sure I can recover from this.

Been doing the alcohol experiment, on day 26. Hosted a family for dinner- my kids were awful and my husband was super stressed running the grill. Our guests brought my favorite Rose and it took everything in me not to have some. I still feel it 😞

Those in the US w/o green cards, how are you preparing to look after old parents in India? Moving back means giving up on what I want (living here). Can’t bring parents here w/o GC. What to do?

Seriously don't know how to get a boyfriend as an IB analyst, most people who are in a relationship started dating since college. Really don't want to be single when I'm 30•••

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

We recently sleep trained our 7 month son. He went from waking up multiple times during night and taking only 30 minute naps 3 times during day (most cases nursed to sleep or rocked to sleep or took a drive) to sleeping 12 hours at night without interruption and two 2 hour naps and one 45 minutes nap during day. We both love that he is getting enough sleep and well rested on one hand. On the other hand, we are now wondering if he is sleeping way too much.. contd…

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

SIL and BIL told us excitedly last weekend that she was pregnant (had literally just found out, so barely four weeks). This week she tells us she’s not pregnant anymore :(. They did not seem super torn up about it and were very practical about it. We said how sorry we were, etc etc. should I do anything else? Should I not mention it again unless they do?

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

Anyone in DFW want to do something this weekend? Just moved here and I have no friends here 😢

How do you deal with trying to live and establish a life of your own but also making sure to grateful and aware of the sacrifices your family has made to get you to where you are now?

I’ve learned recently about some traumatic events that family members of mine have gone through but I had no idea had occurred. Besides my parents divorcing I really have not experienced that many hardships or trauma in my life. Sometimes it makes me worry if I’m due for something bad to happen, if the other shoe was going to drop at some point. I know hardships are a part of life and I feel like I have had far less than normal

About to be a new dad. Starting to look into childcare but feeling a little overwhelmed. Would love to hear thoughts/opinions on what to look for besides convenience.

Anyone else stuck here without family? I'm in SF and my roommates are going home to their families tonight and i'm going to be alone, it's going to be a long 3 weeks..... 😭😭😭

I try to mentally play it off like I don’t care or only go where you’re wanted, but it sometimes stings when a group of friends hang out and don’t invite you. Makes you wonder why or what I do?

How is everyone taking time to indulge in Self Care now that most of us are either about to go back to work, or have started back up with students? I’m having mixed feelings of going back on my end and would love to hear how others are feeling too!

Hi
Are there any couple pg/studio aprtment in pune wanna shift with my wife for some 3-4months.
Please help me with some suggestions..

My friend just got out of a relationship and hooked up with his ex's best friend a week later. They're now dating and seeing each other everyday.
I couldn't help but feel like this wasn't an appropriate thing to do for both parties. He also revealed that he cheated on his past exes.

I'm naturally feeling a bit weary of his character and questioning whether this is a friend I want to keep close in my life. Perhaps I'm being too judgmental?

Looking to move to San Antonio and we're looking at places in Alta Vista and El Dorado. Pros and cons? We have two kids under five, so looking for a nice family community with good schools.

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

How are servicenow projects in cts ? Anyone in any project with no wlb?

Hi Fishes,
Need 11 likes for DM. Pls help me out & thanks in advance.

Interviewing for Cyber Sec role. At very beginning they ask salary exp. I said usual way to postpone that question, and to figure out their range for role. On final interview and I mentioned 85-95k and they said it’s on the lower end for role…. Did I lowball myself?

Couldn’t get more info about sign on bonus, etc

I’ve been with my company for 4 years and I’m thinking about applying for a new job. For references, I would like to use my coworkers but I also don’t want to bring up the fact that I’m applying to other places. How should I handle my references when it comes to applying or interviewing with other companies?

For those of you without a home office: Where do you usually work? My desk is in my bedroom and I’m considering sacrificing aesthetic to move my set up elsewhere

Hi guys, Yoe 12 yrs banking domain Present ctc 14.5 lpa infy and serving notice period.

How much can be negotiated in for global logic ( hr round pending)

Already holding offer 23lpa in wipro TIA GlobalLogic

Anyone else getting pretty harsh feedback on your candidacy as a whole from Maria at applicant lab? I feel like I have a doable shot at my target schools based on gpa, gmat and essays but every time she reviews she suggests I have no chance. It’s been pretty discouraging.

Hello,

Please can some one explain me how is KBS in terms of wlb, career growth, hikes, benifits etc.. I'm would be into finance dept...

Partners: Hey HR, we are short of resources and looking to hire a self starter candidate, with good analytical mindset, and should be a hardworker and should not hesitate to work long hours. Also forgot to mention, we are totally short of budget. But since the projects are high demanding, we need someone to get going.
HR: Hmmm... Challanging situation. Let me get back to you in 2 weeks
After 2 weeks...
HR: Happy to welcome, xxxx to the team. xxxx has joined the team as an Analyst

Does anyone know how to become an independent contractor?

Any advice on how to switch from big 4 to tier 1 consulting firms like BCG and MCK?

Hello Fishes

How is the WLB, annual hike, work culture in MasterCard?
Role- Middleware

Interviewed recently with @VillageMD. Anyone have any insight about the remote Medical assistant positions? Preferably someone who does or did work in that type of position with this company. How was the workload? How much time is usually spent on the phone answering calls?

How long does it take to get the result after AWS-SAA exam?

What are some of the perks of working for Deloitte?

One of my friend was asked to resign because she got pregnant . They specifically told her that they have strict policies and need complete commitment and you are not fit for the current role owing to your health. They have a king rule from management side and treat their employees as daily wage labor . Very bad HR and management

Okay, it’s time to stop putting on a face about this. I love my boyfriend so much, but covid is ruining us. We are both still WFH and argue every few days about the dumbest stuff. My and his mental health are both diminishing and it feels like an impossible trench to dig out of. My stomach hurts every time we fight and I (independent of him) feel so stuck in this horrible global crisis. I don’t want to lose him, but I need to figure out how to dig us both out of this unsustainable mental state.

I was okay and then randomly saw photos of my ex that i didnt know existed in my message history to my friend (i deleted everything related to him the day we broke up) and it has brought back all the memories and pain. It has already been over two months. I hope this can go away.

I miss being able to innocently and naively fall in love and trust that things will work out. After being so disappointed twice in a row i just feel like now i cannot trust guys anymore and what they say. :( once u learn something, you cannot unlearn

Going through a terrible breakup. Whenever I wake up, either in the morning or from a nap, I immediately uncontrollably cry because of the immediate thought that he is no longer next to me. The worst part is that we’re living together still (not talking or sleeping in the same room). I can’t even imagine what it will be like when we can finally break our lease. Does this feeling ever end?

Had another dream about my ex. I asked him questions on why he changed. He answered just let go. I think now my brain is finally starting to fully acknowledge there is only one path forward.

It’s been six weeks since he broke up with me and I feel like I’m still in shock. Like I’m in a nightmare I can’t wake up from. I just can’t believe he left me when he always said he never would.

How many chances can you give someone?

The worst part of my breakup is the urge to obsess over his happiness with the woman he cheated on me with. Any tips?

My boyfriend doesn't like to talk about his feelings. It's the time of year where he lost his sister (passed away) very suddenly and idk how to bring it up to him. I want him to know I know it's that time but feel like he'll just yell at me.

My friend invited me to hang out with her and her friends because I was feeling very sad about my breakup. Three of her friends end up hitting on me and just really invading my personal space. I honestly thought they had a joke or game of some sort. I tell my friend it makes me uncomfortable because it’s not something I’m looking for atm. She says I should take it as a compliment, but the only thing I feel is disgust that I now have to look forward to guys only wanting me for my body 😔

How do you actually find a decent person to date when you’re working 80+ consulting hours? Like seriously...everyone I know who recently got engaged or married had been long term dating since high school or college. What has worked for people?

I finally move out in two days and as the day gets closer, it gets so much harder. I love him and it hurts. Even right now, I’m still living with him and I’m in the living room watching tv and he’s working at his station. I think soon I’ll just be occupying my own time alone and not with the person I love. Idk how people do this.

I’m shooting 3 talks tomorrow, none of the talks have been written. I can’t stop thinking about him.

What are some thoughts that get you out of your breakup sadness zone? I need to borrow them.

1. Have a better life than the one you imagined with him
2. Build a big life. Being rich and famous solves everything.
3. Mind your business. Be the main character in your story.

Welcome! Feel free to share any stories about marriage, divorce, other personal issues, etc. This group is to support, and provide POSITIVE advice/feedback to women who might be struggling with a personal issue. Keep it clean, keep it classy, keep it positive. Thanks!

How are all the lovely ladies doing today?! It's one of those days for me... Trying very hard with every breath to not check his profile and see what he's up to...
He broke up with me almost 2 months ago and it's just been death.
Some days very good and busy and powering through. Other days are hell. Pure hell

My boyfriend is texting his best friend's girlfriend. He openly says "oh i texted her about x" to me and I believe him...but my concern is that they're going to start some sort of flirtationship. She's some sort of model and has even told her boyfriend that my boyfriend is funny whereas she says her boyfriend is obnoxious. Is this something to worry about? We're not in a great space right now so Idk what to think.

Hope everyone is doing well and happy, recovering from the heart break ❤️

Currently going through divorce proceedings. I honestly don't want to date anyone right now but I have this fear that I'm already 28 and I'll never meet anyone good. I went on some apps and matched with some guys but I feel like they're all the same and I don't wana get to know anyone. But I'm also scared for my future.