I am devastated. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years we were taking about getting married and having kids. Then I discovered he was also in another relationship - 2 years in.
He promised her all the same sweet stuff. I'm trying not to be too hard on myself but I'm not sure I can recover from this.

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I gave him so many chances and opportunities to do better during our relationship. He cheated before but never did I suspect a 2 year relationship.

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What do you do to feel better? Just wait?

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You can and will recover!! I know it seems like an uphill battle right now but time heals all and you'll get through it.

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Im so sorry you are going through this :( please take time to process and grief etc. but also dont ruin yourself and the bright future you could have by thinking you cant recover. I am also going through some rough time and i keep telling myself im not going to give him the power to ruin my life. We are so much better and deserve more.

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Ugh what a horrible thing to do to you two. Some people make me so angry.
I would have a very difficult time trusting in relationships after that and imagine some therapy would help. Partly to be able to trust again and to find ways in future relationships to manage those feelings & how your partner can help you feel safe.
Outside of that, focus on yourself for a bit - whatever that means for you

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