How to mentally justify 50k wedding for <60 people? (Vhcol)

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It does seem obscene doesn’t it? I feel like we should have a wedding with our friends and all but can’t justify the cost for one day….

Apart from watching my wife walk down the aisle, the only memory is the 94 degree sun during pictures. It's a waste of money. Just smile, get it over with, and try to avoid the urge to calculate the total.

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I was honestly actually thinking of not doing a ceremony at all but if that’s the only part you remember perhaps it is important….

It’s a once in a lifetime event, and probably the most important and memorable day in your and your partner’s lives. The average wedding cost for those living in NYC is over $10k more.

It’s smart to be mindful of spending, to save and invest for the future. But you also have to celebrate your success and everything you’ve worked for. Life is short. Enjoy these moments.

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