I am starting IVF w/ a donor. Everyone keeps asking are they Black. No & I’m honest, about my reasons. There were 8 Black donors available at the time I chose 3 of whom could only be purchased if you had a sibling already because they were overused. The other 5, I simply wasn’t attracted to & would never date or procreate with. I chose an Afro Latino donor that was most melanated. Is it weird that I’m constantly being judged anyway? I’ve been told I should’ve chosen a Black donor regardless ….

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OP, you chose well. What else were you supposed to do? Just because it’s IVF and a donor doesn’t mean you pick anyone. If you wouldn’t procreate with that person, it doesn’t make sense picking them as a donor. You did well, ignore what people say. They can do have their kids with the black ones of they want.

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Thank you sis 🙏🏾

People are so unnecessarily judgey! You can pick whoever you want as your sperm donor just like you can date and marry whoever you want.

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Well, it’s your life so…

I’m sure you wish you could go the traditional, natural route.

Pray and ask God for guidance in all things.

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Compassion for where you are in life.
I think there are some gaps you may want to consider.

No one is perfect because we all fall short.

Getting things “our way” or in your case “your way” isn’t the objective.

For your encouragement

Now Sarai Abram's wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.

And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the Lord hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai.

Wait on the Lord

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You made the best choice for you and the little human you want to create. That’s all that matters. 🙌🏾

Giving people more information sometimes gives the impression that there's a discussion to be had. Sounds like these folks aren't ready for how direct you are in your thought process. Also, what's wrong with Afro Latina?!

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