I am struggling to care about my job at all. I feel so burned out, especially trying to balance kids and the practice. I’ve dealt with a lot from bad partners recently. As a result, my mental health is in the toilet and I’m seriously questioning whether to continue in the law (even though I am up for partner this year). I need to work through this and am looking for advice from people who have dealt with similar and how they addressd. Therapist, career coach, time off? I need a plan

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Short term, you need to totally unplug for preferably 9 full days ASAP. If you can get short term disability, that works too. The goal is to put down the weight of practice for a minute.
Intermediate term is get a therapist and start working to identify the root issue - bad partners, too much responsibility, burn out, actually hate law, whatever it is. Don’t wait to start, but also don’t expect this to be done in less that a few months bare minimum.
Long term is to fix the root issue. Switch firms, switch practice area, switch career, whatever you need to do.

And repeat Step 1 regularly. Breaks are so vital to recharge!

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Mental Health Matters. Your Mental Health Health Matters!!! Yes, it is important to take a step back and reassess your situation and understand what lead up to this moment. At this point, taking some much needed time off is imperative.The time off should be used to relax, unwind, reset, and figure out next steps. To begin with SELF CARE is EXTREMELY HELPFUL!!!! Speaking with a Therapist is also a good idea. Your next step is crucial as you will need time to create balance in your private and professional life. Lastly, I Pray the Peace of God Rest, Rule, and Abide in Your Heart and Mind🕊️🕊️🕊️

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I hear you! You’re dealing with bad partners and I’m dealing with interesting clients. What I’m going to say is not a popular answer, but it has helped me out tremendously. I’m talking about prayer. I’ve said it before…No one on this planet can give you peace of mind. Why? We’re all flawed down here. We all have some element of selfishness that we’re dealing with. But praying to the Lord for peace each day (yes, every day) can bless you beyond words. I don’t know your faith, but prayer works for me.

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