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l am currently a rising junior in
college interning this summer at
Amazon as a Business Analyst. I
would really like to break into
product management and believe in
my 5 weeks so far I have shown skills
to back that up. Would it be
acceptable to ask my manager to
recommend me for a product
management internship next
summer? My midpoint meeting with
my manager (and his manager) is
next Friday
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You have to love yourself wholly and when/if somebody else comes along they are just there to add to it, not be the reason for it. I have been there and felt really lonely and still do sometimes when I’m single. For me that just means it is a good time to focus on myself more.
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1. Your feelings are valid
2. Human beings are programmed for companionship and community. How that shows up in an individual's life will be specific to each person.
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There is nothing wrong with desiring partnership and companionship.
A few things for you to ask yourself:
- When you say you want someone to do cute things for and with, is that because you may believe that certain practices are for couples?
- Does the belief that certain activities/rituals (Dining out, traveling, wearing sexy lingerie/clothing, going to the movies etc) are for couples, impact/restrict your ability to enjoy them on your own?
- When you say that you are starting to feel unworthy, is it because you are being directly told by potential partners that you are difficult to date/be with.....OR.....is it because being single has made me you far more selective about who you give your time, attention, energy and focus to....and you are realizing that the men around you just don't measure up?
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Several years ago, I was where you are now, and my therapist asked me these questions during a few sessions. I had to ask myself if I was:
- Putting certain experiences on hold until Mr. Right came along
- Denying myself joy, passion, and new experiences because society said that I would be weird do things alone
- Punishing myself for evolving holistically, and yet being unintentional about who I gave the time of day.
Now there are certain things that require another person....hugging, kissing, cuddling, and certain types of hunching.....and believe me beloved....I understand.
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But after being lonely while single, and being lonely in relationships, all I can tell you is that:
- Time is non- refundandable and you can't bank it for future use
- Loving and being loved from a place of overflow is DELICIOUS....it feels like winning the lottery, eliminating student debt, your favorite summertime memory, tasting fireworks and so much more! Loving and being loved when your life is full of joy and passion that comes from you and amplifies all aspects of your life is....DECADENT.
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I hope that while you are living your life exponentially, getting the most out of every moment you are in, your person shows up, and they don't complete you....they expand your joy, introduce you to new experiences, and partner in ways that truly nuture your greatness, and protect your vulnerability.
You deserve great things and you dont have to wait for someone else to experience them, but WHEN they show up....they will just add to the magic that you already are💜
Every 🫶🏾 single 👏🏾 word 🙏🏾
For your encouragement:
I Peter
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: (meaning he will seek to harm you in your weakness)
Phil
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Romans 12:2
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Thank you for sharing this <3
Same! I dont feel unworthy of love but I am feeling discouraged. If you’re feeling unworthy I would focus more on self care, because we all deserve it, timing is just bad imo.
It is!
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Rising Star
This sound bad. It is what most people want. I wish I had an answer