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Also requisite mention that the National Suicide Prevention Hotline # is 1-800-273-8255. If you have suicidal thoughts please call them or 911.
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The moral concern is that telling someone that you think about killing yourself will hurt them. I don’t believe telling them will fundamentally make any difference in my feelings. Therefore, I’d be hurting them for no reason.
On the other hand, I also believe that they would want to know.
But wanting to know and needing to know are different things right. Would telling them hurt you is more concerning to me.
There was someone in my office who committed suicide at work a few years ago. We never spoke or knew each other’s names, but I still think about him EVERY time I pass by where it happened. As someone who has been suicidal in the past, you can never predict how much this affects people around you. I strongly urge you to talk to anyone and, if that person isn’t the right one, hopefully they know someone who is. I find the people who have been through this/are going through it to be the most helpful
Thanks A1! The hardest part about talking about this is that someone in your position often isn’t sure what to do.
This meme helps keep me grounded a bit 😊
Hey OP, we're here for you! Do you need someone to talk to? While your coworkers would be very helpful, it sounds like you could use help form a professional who can help you through these issues.
Thanks guys. To be clear, I am currently seeing medical professionals. It’s not that I have nobody to talk to but my coworkers. It’s that I’m close to them and I know they care about me. I struggle with the morality of telling vs. not telling them.
Are you working with a psychiatrist and a therapist as well? I would bring this up with the therapist. He/she should be able to help you find the best way to broach the subject (with everyone close in your life) as well as to have a plan to deal with different friends reactions to learning of the news.
If you don’t have a therapist, give Teladoc a call, they have an entire MH area to help you find the right professionals
I’m sorry you’re going thru all this but at least you recognize you need help and are taking the right steps. Keep at it. Takes time to find the right therapist, but a good one you click with will definitely help over these hurdles
Think of a friend who you work with who seems like the last person who could ever be suicidal. Would you want to know that he/she is suicidal? Would you want to know if I told you that there’s nothing you can do to help?
And FYI - this person is getting help from medical professionals
If you would, what is the best way to bring it up?
Is there a way to do so without putting pressure on someone or hurting them?
Morality? What the moral concern?
OP. My best friend attempted suicide a few months ago while I was traveling for a project. I had zero clue she was having any issues whatsoever ever. She dropped me at the airport Monday morning and disappeared until Thursday afternoon when she finally texted from the psych unit to let me know she wouldn’t be meeting me at the airport that night.
I was really hurt at first, didn’t understand, a little angry, more scared and hurt that I didn’t see it coming. I have since learned so much about mental illness and depression and her specific triggers and issues. I was by her side the entire time she was hospitalized and in recovery. We’ve had frank discussions about the what’s and why’s and what ifs should she ever head for that rabbit hole again.
If you are really close to someone(s) in the office, then confide. If you’re close enough to a one or a few, probably a good idea to know someone is watching out for you or has your back and you’re not alone.
I often feel that my feelings are illegitimate because I’ve not attempted suicide yet. I’ve sat down with a plan and intent 4-5 times in the last year (including this past weekend), but never actually hurt myself.
I’m in the habit of talking to one of the crisis / suicide lines when that happens. Even when I’m not planning to hurt myself, I’ll talk to them to calm myself down.
I don’t know how I can bring it up. It feels really mean and selfish.
What do you recommend?
Been working with Teladoc for over a year now. I admit that I haven’t seen a psychiatrist yet, though I am literally calling one today to set up an appointment.
Teladoc has been great, but it’s so damn difficult to communicate with my therapist outside of a session. I haven’t seen her in a while because she has been unavailable (due to recovering from surgery). I haven’t wanted to see anyone else during that time because I don’t want to explain everything again to a new person.
Still, I’ve decided that I need to see someone in person who is easier to communicate with, however, I want to talk to my therapist first and get her opinion on who I should see.
So I’m in a weird place right now. My biweekly therapy sessions have been replaced by weekly calls to the suicide hotline / texts to the crisis line.
While any of us would be willing to talk with you, don’t take your thoughts lightly. Get professional advice as well as seek support from either friends or family or both. You’re a smart person. Find your EAP or your local suicide prevention hotline. Also seek out a new hobby. My best wishes and prayers for you.