I have been growing on tiktok a lot, and getting tons of views, likes, followers, and comments. I’m 34, I was bullied for many things and it made me stronger, but the online bullying from random people actually hurts. Even if out of 1500 comments 50 are cruel and meant to be hurtful. I’m struggling w my mental health as is and I now don’t know if I should continue. How do you deal w online bullying?

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Everyone deals with it differently. But at the end of the day just realize most bullies are bullying because they have massive issues with insecurity, depression or both. They’re bullying you because they have such a low opinion of themselves that they feel compelled to drag others to their level.

Keep your head up and focus on the 1450 other people who adore you, and value you.

LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR THE HATERS KID!

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Thank you everyone who commented, a lot of great advice here! It’s very hard not reading the comments, but I started reading them as the mean tweets situation and it was pretty funny.

I also deleted the really cruel comments unrelated to the content and focused on my appearance, and set the filters to block harassment, and some keywords.

Thank you to this kind, welcoming community.
Your time and comments made a difference 💙

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Tik tok is a rogue place for anonymous trolls. If you just remember that they hate them selves enough to spread that hate hopefully that could help not take it so seriously? Anonymous losers behind fake profiles

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You can turn off comments on tiktok. If you enjoy it and the comments are ruining that for you you have every right not to allow them.

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AD WHO WE FIGHTIN

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I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. I read the comments after appearing on a show that was later put on YouTube, and even in my later 30s it hurt. A lot. The comments had almost nothing to do with the show, but rather, what I looked like. It was gross. You’ll remember these feelings for years to come, but you will grow in your ability to see past them. Try not to harden your heart because there are lots of people who aren’t trying to troll and want you to feel good.

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I thought tik tok was for tweens

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It’s a platform like YouTube, the content you consume and put out is dependent on you. It can be for kids with silly dances. It can also be for scholars. My content is educational for subculture and history enthusiasts and many people say they love my stuff. It’s just a portion which try to make it about my looks etc

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Joe Rogan doesn’t read the comments and he’s Joe Rogan.

Jamie reads for him

Disable comments.

I do this thing, and a side effect of this thing is damaging my mental health.

Hmm. Disable the side effect or stop doing the thing.

Hm. Some of those things are necessary and one is not.

If you can’t avoid reading the comments I’d just disable them for the time being. Then you can still post without getting the negativity

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