I get so frustrated and annoyed when people make stupid common sense mistakes and I think it’s starting to affect my relationships. Don’t really know what to do.

So who here visited the Chicago Yacht Club at Open House Chicago and decided they wanted to grow up to be an old white guy? 🙋🏻

This is the only bowl I can think to post in, but I'm really feeling it today. Has anyone lost their best friend (i.e. through time/growing up) and feel like none of their current friends could live up to the fun/connection you used to have with your high school BFF? I feel like I put too much focus on that one friend and also my boyfriend and just never actually made time for anyone else. I fucked myself over.

Stopped a fwb situation. But staying away is so hard. 😔

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

I'm a US citizen living abroad I applied almost 11 months ago for my spouse. Married for years, kid. I wait and wait. It seems this will take 2 years, maybe more. I feel trapped. On one side the US system demands I work and domicile in US, the other side says families should be prioritized to stay together. My spouse has had enough of the process. I feel trapped abroad and locked in a dysfunctional system. We're just in limbo, it's depressing

I’m excited to marry my SO in a few months but I have severe stage fright and do not like being the center of attention. Any advice on how to reduce the anxiety and just enjoy the day?

New to Chicago - how do I find new friends here?

Have you been able to spend more time with your kids during the pandemic? How?

I am generally uncomfortable when I’m around my mother-in-law’s husband.

While he is overall a decent guy, his anger issues, yelling at his wife for the slightest issue, and insulting nature makes me uncomfortable and triggers my own anger due to his blatant disrespect for just about everyone around him.

My mother-in-law says he’s worked on things, but it’s been 10 years of this and I’m not sure I want such behavior around my wife and our kids since we’re trying to conceive soon (cont).

I just learned I was parentified severely, especially emotionally. The discovery came from outside of therapy, but having a place every week to sit down, slow down & reflect def led to it. Being enmeshed with my parents like this was a cause for my anxiety, low self esteem and workaholic, people pleasing tendencies. I'm working on extricating myself and finding my identity again in a way that will be easy on my conscience and values..so I'm learning! Please dont hesitate to go to therapy!...

How do you handle people’s kids showing up on video meetings? Screaming, kicking, hamming it up, (wasting time.) Everyone else is coo-ing…I’m not a kids person. Heard a technique which is to drop off the call bc you “assume the call is over” (which seems like a great way to get fired especially if it’s a way higher up’s kids - plus it feels rather passive aggressive.) Thoughts?

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

It’s my birthday in a few minutes. 2021 has been a terrible year for me. My marriage ended. It wasn’t a bad end though. We are still close, just not romantic partners anymore. The very first dog I ever had died and I couldn’t go see her because of the quarantine. I didn’t get a promotion that I more than deserved. I don’t think I get paid well. Most of my friends moved out of the city and I’m having to meet new people at 32. I love my job but it’s incredibly stressful. I’m terribly lonely.

I’ve always been a big saver minimum 15% to maxing out my 401k since I graduated college. I’m married to someone who thinks 6% is enough and likes $$$ cars. Other than the cars, they dont really spend money. For the married 🐠, how do you have the conversation with them that what they are doing isn’t enough? I try to guide them and say you want the $$$ cars but the salary you have won’t get there and you’re going to have to find a job that gets them the salary…. Then the fight starts.

Comforting others:
When someone tells me bad news regarding their health, I say everything I am supposed to say (I’m sorry to hear that, I’m here for you, etc) EXCEPT “everything is going to be ok”. Because I can’t guarantee that and I really don’t know if everything is going to be ok. I was taken aback recently when a friend told me I am calloused and cold-hearted for not being able to say those words. Is she right? Should I start saying this for the purposes of providing comfort only??

I've been gardening more to relieve stress and have some time to my self. Full endorsement!

Any technical writers here? Would you mind sharing your salary range? I'm getting an offer and would like to see what's a good salary range.

Hi

Wellbeing Program
Employees will receive a reimbursement of up to INR 10,000 for eligible expenses per calendar year.

What's this program in S&P Global?

So it isn’t the car after all !!!

How much variable does EY India generally pay, if 20% variable is mentioned by them while giving offer letter.

Hello Fishes,

Deloitte USI is offering me 15LPA fixed and 1lack joining bonus and HCL offering me 23LPA fixed. I've tried to negotiate with deloitte but they are not ready to negotiate and asking me to join on the same CTC which was initially provided. I'm confused to select the company. It would be really helpful if anyone could share their views. Thanks.

When renting a condo from an owner, I was asked to pay a $150 move-in fee to the building which I thought makes sense, but then I am being told to also pay a $500 non refundable move in fee to the owner but he is not wanting a security deposit. Is this normal? Seems like $500 down the drain but not sure if this is normal

Hope everyone in Victoria is coping during these times.

Hi there! In LAX this Friday and Saturday anyone wants to talk about ai let me know doing drinks and maybe dinner with a friend by Santa Monica’s bodega. Cheers!

I’m a pharmacist and currently doing an MBA. I have only 2 YOE as a pharmacist and I’m trying to find a career path that will suit me. I completely regret choosing pharmacy and I want to reorient myself. Any advices as where to start applying? ( FYI I particularly enjoyed finance during the master)

Hi Fishes, I am working as a Senior Manager in Sales in an edtech startup in Noida, it was quite a great journey. I have learned a lot, its been 2.4 years i am working here and got promoted twice here.
Now i am looking to switch to an MC to explore new culture, learn new things and work life balance. Looking for a job in Noida or WFH. Please help

Is it possible to get a convenient location transfer in LTIMindtree? Or it can be decided only after the project allocation?

Does tiger analytics provide training after joining as experienced? How much time generally given to cop up in the project?

Is there a scientific reason why we get songs stuck in our heads? How come we don’t really experience this kind of thing with our other senses?

Hello people, I have 8 years of working experience in non it field although my education throughout is IT related. I want to switch to IT now particularly in abap but since I don't have the relevant experience so what salary range can I expect or should I ask for from my employers of new organization???

Need like for completing profile. Thanks.

Is anyone else in the middle of switching jobs? Should coronavirus be giving me second thoughts about making a move?

My CEO was just ousted and I think he left a stash of weed in his old office

Good lord this open space is insufferable

I’m white.. and a man. Shhh, don’t tell anyone.

I’m 30. My friends’ weddings are piling up and I’m just... still very much single. Feel like it’s acceptable in NYC but also sorta depressing. Dating is hard.

I like to think of myself as calm but really I’m just dead inside.

I am stupidly rejecting recruiters with legit offers because I am waiting for The One. The offer to end all offers. But they are taking entirely too long to notify me. They keep telling me to hold on.

I am not ok.

First day back after a 10-day beach stint. Putting on pants was hard enough.

The turkeys nest is where you find inspiration

The new swatch ads make no sense to me. Skin Irony? Wtf?

Anyone else cursed with desperately wanting someone to tell you what to do to get better, but knowing that you would never listen?

I’m tired of the arrogance and male techno-superiority. Where are the humans with feelings, vulnerability, joy in all of this?

I was late to an interview.

I’m type A, never late, certainly not to an interview. I called & sent an email as soon as I knew I would be delayed. They had me come in anyway. Am I totally screwed?

I just want to go home and eat cheese.

I don’t get paid to write advertising. I get paid to sit through meetings like these. Kill me.

I left my job without having anything else lined up otherwise I would have had a mental breakdown. I’m not even in that great of a financial place, but it was my job or my sanity. I know at least three other people who, in the past few months, have left with nothing lined up. I feel like it’s something we need to be talking more about. This isn’t normal for people to be doing this right?

Someone used my mug while I worked from home yesterday and now the top is missing. I feel like this is a metaphor for my agency en masse.

Who has made the leap from working/living in the US to abroad? Any words of advice?

Does anyone really, really love their job? Or do you just do it to pay bills and get to the weekend? I'm curious how many people actually truly love what they do