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There’s a game I like to play that’s based on an old writing rule: every antagonist is the protagonist in their own story. So when someone cuts me off, or makes a dumb mistake, I try to imagine an (often unlikely) scenario wherein that decision made sense in their story. Maybe their boyfriend just broke up with them, and they can’t concentrate. Maybe they’ve really gotta pee and had to hurry out of there. I will never know, and that’s the point
This is super trite, but I rewatch this at least once a year when I feel like you’re feeling. It honestly helps center me and restarts my busted empathy chip
https://youtu.be/4NnEPf0K-6g
I used to really get upset about these too when I was starting out. My advice is to take ten seconds to breathe (or 10 minutes to take a walk, if you need), and realize most people aren’t doing it to be malicious. Unfortunately a lot of people just don’t have common sense or a natural knack for doing things the right way the first time. You have to realize that as upset as it makes you, even if they don’t show it, they’re probably upset or embarrassed too when they realize it.
You should probably marry me and we can be annoyed together.
What if you made a list of stupid mistakes you’ve made, and referenced it when others mess up?
@SR1 I get it people make mistakes (I obviously, like any human, have made a million mistakes) which is why I’ve acknowledged that this way of being isn’t great. I’m trying to take steps to change that...
The sooner you embrace the idea that none of this REALLY matters, the sooner you’ll feel your frustration melt away.
OP-I didnt mean the above as a judgement. Was trying to offer the idea of employing compassion-consciously using it, even if you’re not feeling it naturally in the moment, to move on from the “being annoyed” feeling. It also helps to open up a new space to connect with the person who’s screwing up and see their”mistake” from a new, more relatable perspective.
ACD1 I employ the same tactic and it helps immensely. If someone cuts me off in traffic, I make up a story about their wife calling that she’s in labor or that someone is having an emergency. I used to have A LOT of road rage, so most of my scenarios involve driving stories. This strategy works really well because it 1) diverts your attention from anger and 2) increases your capacity for empathy.
“You’re probably smarter and that’s your problem” 😂 🤣 if only we all treated it this way, I’m sure we’d get sooooooo far together.
@ACD1 could work actually
Sometimes what you hate most in others are things you actually hate in yourself
Everyone should watch that this is water video. Seriously.
You’re probably smarter. It sucks. You might want to take an acting class to act like you don’t care. I did.
@SE1 well I hate a lot of things about myself soooo could be!
Smarter in what way though? I’m smarter at grammar and driving than I am cooking and building a backyard deck 🤷♂️ intelligence can be very relative. But yes, there are stupid people out there, I’m just hesitant to think I’m smarter than everyone I witness making a simple error.
Yeah, compassion and empathy can be used as effective tools.
☝🏻Empathy.
CD1: Seriously? this is cracking me up. At least a handful of male DGAF CD’s I’ve worked with came to mind and I wondered if they’d all taken acting classes to affect that.
Yeah seriously.