I know finance is overall a conservative industry, but it’s hard if you don’t fit into the mold. I’ve been hiding my true self for years. It’s painful to hear coworkers bash others because they are gay or look different. I’ve noticed if they don’t understand something they lump it all together, so it makes one small thing seem insane. It’s hard to hear from a human being standpoint, but especially when I’m hiding things about myself that they openly bash. Like being bi, politics, religion, etc.

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There’s hope! I believe this vastly depends on team culture. I know a ton on MDs at JPM who would not tolerate snide comments and are extremely open-minded. There’ll always be haters and people who stay extremely political correct, but I hope for you and any future women entering the industry that it will change drastically so you can continue to bring your most genuine self to work. Have a great holiday!

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I don’t know if that’s an industry issue or a company issue…

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