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I am curvy (think size 8/10) and my fiancé is slim (size small), it used to bother me a lot when we started dating - like you I was always with bigger guys before this. Over time, I have come to abso love my body (which I hated for long time and abused it every chance I got either by words or by starving), this love that I have developed is mainly because of how my fiancé makes me feel. I am the most attractive person to him, no matter my size. Unfortunately for me, this validation was external and not self driven.
you sound like me. i also went the starving route because of body shaming. i’m glad you’re loved now 💖
I’m taller and wider (lol) than my boyfriend. It did bother me for some time but I’m used to it now. I’m on the taller side and used to only date guys who were 6 ft+. Now I realize it’s empowering and actually quite nice that my boyfriend is not a behemoth who can toss me around like a rag doll lol.
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My guy is way skinnier, albeit much taller too. Was very self conscious at the beginning and still sometimes think I’m gonna crush him when I’m on his lap, but I think it’s all in my head… he never commented on my weight and even picks me up sometimes, which is sometimes mortifying. Mind you, my ex who was much taller and way bigger overall told me I should lose 5kg, so…
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I’d probably feel a bit self-conscious, but TBH there are many things one could feel self-conscious about appearance-wise in comparison to your partner, and what’s important is that you feel comfortable, respected, and cherished regardless of your size!
Also, nothing wrong with having preferences. I know I’m not going to be every guy I date’s dream or ideal type physically and vice versa. As long as there’s attraction and chemistry.
he remembers me being very small but he didn’t know what i was doing to be that small. i haven’t talked to him about this before, no. kind of afraid to. i sent him a selfie recently where he noticed that my “boobs got bigger” (said as a compliment). all i thought was - yea they did, along with everything else. he’s been empathetic about other things, so i can’t see why he wouldn’t be empathetic about this. i just haven’t talked to him about it. i agree that he needs to accept me how i am, which is healthy (since i actually eat now)
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Relative weight (BMI) I wouldn’t mind but actual weight and height I prefer to be the smaller one
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I prefer at least taller or wider lol - I dated a skinny guy my height once and it was not for me. Dad bods are great, not into the skinnies
yeah my guy might be taller than me? i think he is. but definitely way smaller than me
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I’ve been thinking about trying to lose weight but I’ll get pregnant and then just gain more weight so I thought I’d wait it out
I felt this way in my early 20’s. I was really self-conscious about my weight and only dated guys who were much taller (above 6’) and larger than me (5’5” and size 8).
My husband is maybe 3-4” taller than I am and fairly slim - he outweighed me just barely when we met, but definitely does not anymore…and it’s fine, I don’t even think about it.
Single me was overlooking red flags for larger guys and missing out on great guys who were shorter. When we were first dating I took my husband to urgent care and deliberately avoided hearing how much he weighed cause I was so worried it was less than me. Lucky for me I was so crazy about my husband I just pushed through.
Once I felt better about myself I stopped caring about being larger than him. We’re crazy about each other and had instant physical chemistry when we met - that’s all that really makes you happy.
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