I was a bridesmaid in 2018, I haven’t spoken to the bride much (communication has slowed down) do I still invite her to my wedding now? The last few times we spoke I was the one that initiated conversation, last convo was Jan 2022.

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Would you like to maintain a relationship with them? If yes, I would invite them, if not then I think you’re fine

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My thoughts exactly. It would be weird not to communicate after the wedding. So I guess this is also one of the things OP need to consider.

Are you restrictive on the number of attendees?

You can invite out of courtesy but it wouldn't really matter either way.

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I agree with you. The only problem would be the awkwardness if ever they say yes. Lol

I wouldn’t if you have a limited number of spots. You want people at your wedding who you are actually close with.

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Do what feels right in your heart. If you don’t invite her, how will you feel in the moment, months after, and years after? Your not obligated to invite anyone to your wedding. Friendships brighten and fade, and that’s ok! It’s your special day, do what feels good to you and nobody can fault you for that. My grandma always told me guilt is a wasted emotion because you’re the only one who can feel it. You can always have a spot on reserve for her, or add her to a “B” list. Then if someone on your “A” list cannot attend the wedding, you could offer that spot to your friend.

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I think if it's a small wedding she'd understand if you didn't, given you didn't invite other friends that you consider more distant. But at the end of the day do whatever you want

Thats up to you honestly. But you don't owe anyone anything so you do what is best for you.

That's unfortunate. What do you think was the reason why your communication has slowed down?

Hi! You don't owe them anything. Not trying to be rude but do what feels good to you :)

Do you want it to be intimate? Are there limited slots only? If so, then it's okay if you don't invite her.

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