If your parents or in-laws are paying for part of your wedding, does that grant them permission to make decisions about those parts?

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Essentially… yes.

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eh. i think it means input is allowed but they shouldn’t get like full executive decision

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They definitely get more of a say (or will think they do). But hopefully you get to make the final call on things

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I mean, yes. Are you willing to pay for it yourself without their support? If not, you are stuck.

This depends, but typically gives them input. They way you phrased it Gets a say in the part they are funding. Sounds rather specific. Like they wanted x and it wasn't in your budget and they offered to pay for it. This is a bit different from them saying we want to give you 10k to your wedding, or we want to pay for the reception ( in which case you ask the budget)

But it is up to you to use your voice to say yes or no to certain requests. I got lucky. Parents voiced their view but said ultimately your wedding, your choice. Doesn't mean they didn't lobby for their view.

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