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I know Liver King is out there but my roommate has been living by his “9 ancestral tenets” and it basically changed his life. Anyone else that follows something similar seen benefits? Seems like he’s rooted on well being and staying connected with the world around you. Even if you think he’s weird his YouTube video is well put together.
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The bothering is natural but I have been on both sides and the ex and I are actually just good friends, nothing going on and won’t ever be.
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How frequently are they texting?
Is it negatively impacting the health of your relationship?
What is your primary need here? His attention or control of where his attention goes and to who?
If I trust my partner, I’m not worried about who he is talking to. If he spends too much time on his phone and I need attention, then that’s what I’ll ask for. If I have some insecurity around his relationship with his ex, I’ll communicate that.
The feelings are normal, we just have to figure out what is being triggered and fix that.
I’m going to be the opposite and say no. Especially if a significant amount of time has passed and they both have clearly dated other people while remaining in contact.
I will add that “value system” and maturity of the man place a huge part!
It depends on the nature of the interactions. Like my ex reached out when he finally graduated from his graduate program to thank me and to ask for advice. I kept it very brief.
I also reached out to an “ex” after my dad died (he was a very close friend in college and we hooked up a few times, our families were close and spent some holidays together) and he was a lead resident and I wanted his feedback on being the best student partner (when I was still in school).
My husband knew about these the entire time. None of these were long term or meant for anything other than short interactions.
Wouldn’t bother me. You either trust him or you don’t. Doesn’t make sense to police it.
Yeah. I don’t date guys who are friends with their exes. Cordial is one thing. But friends means they could definitely come back in the picture.
Although I’ve NEVER interfered with anyone’s relationship, I have definitely been the friend who came back in the picture the moment the other relationship was done.
Not really! Is it an ex you know about? As far as the history? I had two exes text me recently & one follows me on TikTok. Both are really just friends & I wish them the best. One is actually married. What does your gut tell you? Most men are still friends with exes or follow them on social media.
I wouldn’t mind my dude remaining friends with an ex as long as that’s all it was. One of my best friends in the world is an ex and I’d find it weird if my man wanted me to stop talking to him when he’s been in my life for over 30 years.
I’m confused. Did they text or are they friends? If they’re friends and have been friends before me, it’s not up to me to be bothered or not from the friendship alone —I would need more context around the appropriateness of their interactions. If he randomly texted her after not speaking AND didn’t mention it to me, I’m side eyeing.
As others indicated, context matters. But more often than not, it would make me pause.
Oh for sure.
Yes, been there before. Never works out. You can try and act cool with it but ultimately it will grate on you…. Causing issues. Set boundaries.
Kind of depends on the context. My husband was texting with an “ex” before we were married and it got to a point where I confronted him bc it was leading. I blocked the number … 🥲.
I text my exes every now and then and I tell him when they reach out to me but I’m not interested in rekindling anything.
It depends how solid our relationship is. If given a reason to be jealous, I definitely would be. My boyfriend used to talk to his ex once in a while. I was cool with it because she lived in another country and she was always respectful of me and our relationship. I would check on my ex every now and then because we met in college and pretty much grew up together.
No. I am secure in my relationship and who we are together. People are going to do what they want so I can either know about it and if I start to feel a kinda way we can chat about it like adults. Or he can do it in secret and create distrust and betrayal. My husband and I both talk to our exes and it isn't an issue at all.
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Hmmm…Texted about what????