I’ll start. A confidante found out what was happening to me, raised it through HR, my claim was “substantiated” by them, but on my perf review this year, it places the blame on me for his behavior.

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Also, was the investigation confidential? Putting it on your performance review seems like a breach of confidentiality.

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That’s awful. Were you able to challenge it in your perf review? The substantiated claim - is it clear that you carry no responsibility?

The part on my review was that I had a bad relationship with the team, but the situation was that the guy was having screaming fits at me, and I’d start crying or go hide in the client bathroom. I don’t know if they know about the investigation or not, and I’m not sure what to do.

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