I’m a contractor and single dad who earns well, but the silence at home is deafening. I’ve spent my life providing for everyone else, but I’ve realized I’ve forgotten how it feels to actually be seen as a human being.
Every woman I meet seems to have an ulterior motive. I’m just a paycheck or a solution to them, never a partner. I’ve worked myself to the bone for a life I share with no one. I’m tired of being a resource. Is this all that’s left? Just exhaustion and silence?

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I ask you to step outside yourself, be a little introspective. How do you know they are only after a paycheck? What is your definition of “after your paycheck”? What is your definition of partner? Are you looking for a stay at home mom but trying to date 25 year olds? Are you a man who has never once seen a therapist?

I’m not saying being a single parent isn’t hard, but when I hear “after my paycheck,” it sounds like manosphere content where you want a woman who will split rent 50/50 but take on ALL the housework. What are you offering a woman? And what “type” of woman are you going after? Sometimes we find the problem and solution begins with ourselves.

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I just read an article about this phenomenon.
You are not alone! We have to take care of ourselves…it’s an inside job. We spend our entire lives taking care of others and then we feel alone in our own home even when people are there. It’s strange. What makes you happy?
We have to figure that out and then do what makes us feel good rather than worrying about everyone else’s happiness

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For those also going through this, any tips on how you manage yourself day to day? What self talk tends to help?

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