I’m currently struggling with my friend group. I’m a transplant to my current city and ended up making friends with my coworkers (who were also transplants). Now I’m regretting this as I don’t feel like the friendship is deep and things seem competitive. I feel like I have no friends and my real friends (from HS and College) are in a different state and have their own lives. Any advice on dealing with having no real friends where you live?

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I’ve been there. It’s hard to get that deep connection with people from work. I feel like the risk is greater when being vulnerable with people you work with so it inherently creates a bit more of a barrier.
I’m not the kind of person to just spontaneously make friends so getting involved in organized activities helps.

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I went through this when I first started in PA. I had a friend in the city and lived with two of his friends and I kind of merged into their friend group. Lonely sometimes but it was a fun and easy way to meet new people.

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