I’m a male and have previously worked with two different male sponsors, but both relapsed, and the overall experience was challenging. Would having a female sponsor be better since my drinking started due to a relationship issue with a woman?

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Probably not. Unless you're gay maybe. How much sobriety did your sponsors have? Did you choose them because they had what you want? (Ie Chose them because they had a solid program and had peace and joy in their life)?

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No, find a male sponsor.

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I would strongly advise against it. Of course there are exceptions and circumstances where it may be the best choice, but the rationale you lay out above sounds like you’d be putting yourself into a precarious situation.

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