Im doing a very small intimate wedding of about 40 guests. Is it in poor taste to invite people to my bridal shower that are not invited to the wedding?

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Yes, it may be considered cash grab. If they are invited to the bridal shower, they need to be invited to the wedding.

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Yes.

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The general rule is yes. I’ve heard some exceptions on etiquette podcasts. If you are willing to forego material gifts, I could see a bridal shower with gift themes being centered around cards with words of wisdom, or recipes.

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This is a great idea to be able to include people without being wildly disrespectful by inviting them and expecting a gift.

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Not necessarily. I think Covid changed a lot of the traditional rules of showers. My shower attendees were largely friends of my MIL and mom whom didn’t receive an invite to our intimate 60 person wedding abroad.

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Yes, very

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I would be the one paying for it.

Yes, very poor taste

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Idk where everyone is from perhaps it differs but I’m Midwest and the MIL or mother of the brides throws a shower

Let’s be real though, if everyone felt comfortable enough to skip it, no one would go.

Bridal showers made more sense when couples moved in together after marriage, and when they were marrying in their late teens/early 20s. but most couples have already been living together for 3+ years before marrying and marry much later now. Now it’s just an easier way to get your friends to pitch in for a Nespresso

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