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Hi guys, good day,
As a software engineer 2, my current pay is 17.5L base + 5% variable. I have stocks worth 6500$ and other benefits.
YOE: 3+ years
I wanted to try companies which pays 30L base minimum. How much does Amazon offers for SDE2 and SDE3 role?
Is there any other companies I can try considering my expectations?
Language Skills: C/C++, Java, Python
Thanks in advance
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#1: Rest and relax. Repeat.
#2: Expect that things will go a little sideways often AND that every.single.time. and you WILL figure it out. I mean things like sick babe, sick you, childcare that falls through, sudden work emergencies that seem impossible to handle.
I promise.
#3: Do your best to shut out all the noise, all the striving, all the nonsense and just listen to yourself, especially about your needs and your limits. I wish I’d been told this at the beginning of my motherhood journey.
#4: Serious convo and (if hasn’t happened already) shift in behavior of the other parent to really carry all every day tasks with you - whether around the house, with family/kin keeping or with the sweet little babe.
That’s it. Rest, rest, rest.
You got this and we — all the working mommas around here — support you.
Signed—
Senior in-house leader with 2 teenagers
Nothing work related, take care of yourself. Exercise, sleep well (as well as you can with a new baby anyway), prioritize your mental health
Absolutely take stock of your mental health and make that an ongoing conversation with yourself of how you're doing. (Consider apps like canopies or headspace to help with guided meditations and scans.) PPD can hit months later and you'll feel a new set of feelings being away from your baby during the day (regardless of your day care/remote work situation).
Practice giving yourself grace that you are doing you best with your 24 hrs a day and that your priorities are yourself and your baby and everyone else comes after that.
If you've considered pelvic floor therapy, this might be a good time to start that and even make it part of your self care routine. You got this!
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For me, it was having reliable childcare. I used to have a nanny and my MIL. I got rid of both and sent my kid to a high quality daycare with low ratios.
I happened to have a terrible experience with the nanny and my MIL. Neither listened to my care preferences, both stomped on my boundaries, and both endangered my child. Nanny tried to feed my child some unknown substance that I saw on camera, and MIL left my toddler alone in the garage with the door wide open.
Nothing is more distracting than trying to work and worrying about whether your child is okay.
My child is 2 now and LOVES her daycare. I'm pregnant with my second now and plan to start her in daycare after my leave is over.
As a mom, it gives me a lot of happiness to see my toddler happy with her caretakers and to know she's being loved on and cared for every day. When I give an instruction, there's no arguing. It's just, "Absolutely! We will do that!" and I see evidence of the follow-through. I know moms of some of the babies in the infant program, and I feel confident that my second baby will be well cared-for there.
My toddler's skills and speech are amazing, and I love hearing about her day. She learns through play which is exactly what my care philosophy is for her. They read books to her every day. She has her little friends in her group. I know every child and most of their parents. It really is a little village.
Whatever you choose, just know that high quality childcare is worth its weight in gold.
But most of all — when you pick up your child, or you come home, stay off your phone and laptop and be 100% present. They're only small for a short time. I feel like I blinked and suddenly she's 2. When I'm with her, she gets my full attention.
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Line up hired help and automate as much as possible. When my son was little we had a nanny, which was awesome because she'd help with home chores. All of that fell away when he transitioned to school and I'm only finally getting back into hiring out certain things. If you're doing daycare, to the extent that you don't already, order groceries to be delivered, engage a p/u/delivery wash and fold and dry cleaning service, and housekeeper. If baby isn't sleeping through night (mine didn't until he was 21 MONTHS!) use that biglaw money to hire a sleep consultant (I eventually did, way too late).