I’m not married but I’m an autistic guy and 28 and want to take dating more seriously, does anyone have advice?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

No

funny

Prior to commencing your dating journey, it’s worth thinking about the character traits and values of the person you’d want to be with. It helps to be very clear on these attributes otherwise you will waste a lot of time and deal with unnecessary drama. NB: Whilst physical attributes/qualities help with attraction, beauty fades with time. So I wouldn’t place as much weight on this.
Finally be careful with dating apps, in my experience those things are vipers nests

like

My husband is on the spectrum (super high functioning, brilliant, but he’s not great with social ques / reading between the lines). He didn’t tell me about until about a year into dating but if he had told me sooner it would have avoided a lot of misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Would recommend getting it out in the open sooner so that you have a better likelihood of a long term relationship with minimal confrontation.

likehelpful

Agreed with this 💯 my husband was not diagnosed when we first me. But once he was officially diagnosed, I was able to tailor my communication to avoid misunderstandings and be very clear about my needs.

Seriously how? Like you’re thinking about trying to settle down? Then date women (or men if that’s your vibe) that you would want to marry. If you find a trait that you wouldn’t want to stick with for 50 years, move on. Be kind, respectful, and if someone says no to a date, take no for an answer and be cool about it. Do nice things for the sake of doing nice things - chivalry is almost dead so if you’re good at it, all the more power to you.

like

Definitely think of dating as finding someone with similar values and hobbies as you. You aren’t competing against other men, you are looking for someone who would make a good life partner for you. Don’t focus on looks - everyone looks beautiful in the dark.

Find someone you have shared interests in and get to know them. Meet in a public place that is relatively calm for your first few dates. Don't be discouraged if you get rejected or feel guilty if you need to reject someone. Take no for an answer. Give them a discrete heads up about any quirks you might have related to your condition ie eye contact or sensory issues.

Dating is awful in todays society, I am not going to lie to you. I would give you advice but I truly haven't figured it out myself yet. All these apps and things....its so hard to meet people in the wild these days.

Yea I've heard there's piss in the dating pool

Lee your standards high that way you are disinclined to lower them

Post Photo

Write down what you want in a spouse...and become that. Go to therapy. Become your whole, healed best self. Learn communication tips for interpersonal communications. Learn tactics to help you navigate a neuro-typical person

Related Posts

Any kind soul willing to let me bum off their becker 🤓 mines expired and Wiley is well... not good

like

Secret’s Out: airlines measure the broadest men and put them in the middle seat

likefunny

What are your biggest red flags when dating someone new?

likefunny

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

like

Any ladies that would like to go out for dinner? 27M 🙃

like

I feel like being gay just adds another layer of difficulty while trying to date in consulting.

like

I lived in tampa in my early 20s and am now in my late 30s and looking to move back. One of the reason I left is because I felt I had too much energy for the city for a single young professional, but now husband is from there and we have a kid but we are both social people. Do you guys find it easy to meet interesting people and has the city gotten any more fun?

34M looking to move to an area with other singles in their 30s. Currently in the UES but looking to move out for a change in scene.

likefunny

I went through my gf’s phone and found out she had a crush on my best friend when we first started dating (over a year ago). I suspected this at first but it hurts to have it confirmed and see her telling her friends about him. I’m not sure how I should feel since I went out of line to look through her phone.

like

How many of you go to networking events mostly to date?

funnylikesmart

Any other women up for just sitting outside enjoying the evening by Montrose harbor? I'm 35/F. Maybe it's weird, but j just feel like enjoying the evening, it's nice outside, and winter is coming 😂

like

Is dating someone who works at a client a violation of perceived independence? For reference, my girlfriend of 2 years graduated and may have an opportunity to work at the client I help audit (very large client) in a financial analyst type role. If she gets this role will I get pulled off the engagement?

like

How do you actually find a decent person to date when you’re working 80+ consulting hours? Like seriously...everyone I know who recently got engaged or married had been long term dating since high school or college. What has worked for people?

like

I’m so single I don’t know why. I’ve tried dating apps, played social sports, done hobbies that interest me, and even stopped looking. After all that, I still haven’t found someone #dyingalone

like

Grinder is so much more convenient for hookups. Anything similar for straight men?

likehelpful

Alright, Elon Musk, SNL. Is DOGE mooning or tanking?

like

Looking for a female to share a 2bhk in Indira nagar. Found the place today.. Reply asap.

like

Anyone else expect there to be loads of attractive people when they started work and end up thoroughly disappointed?

likefunnysmart

Men 🐟: Is the unwritten rule of urban spacing dead?! Too many guys ponying up nice and close lately. Ladies, do you have any similar unwritten rules of the bathroom?

like

More Posts

What is the appropriate way to sympathize with relatives when their loved ones pass away. I never know what to say on the phone other than ask is everyone ok and I am sorry to hear their loss. Cont...

like

Advice on job hunting in the remote environment? Currently at a cvc firm and looking to make the jump to institutional vc

like

Is the way to train managers changing? I’m familiar with a cohort model where a group of new managers meet in person, and then go through some classes together over a period of 2-6 months. Is there a better or new model that people are using?

like

9th Sept : I observed some people get a t-shirt, cup, chocolate etc. Today in Kolkata as part of a 150 year celebration.
Simple question - is everyone getting it?

like

Does Uniqlo have the best budget plain t’s?

like

I work in a firm that is known for litigation defense. I’ve been developing my own plaintiffs practice as well. I am able to pay the bills with my hourly defense work, which gives me time to focus on a handful of high value PI case a year on contingency. I was recently negotiating a case and was told part of the reason the claims rep/OC was jerking me around was because they didn’t see me as a plaintiffs attorney. Is there any way to change this perception or does it just come over time?

like

Mphasis & EY same package
6year exp, Post - senior software Engineer
My priority is wlb and career growth
Where should I join??

like
like

What made you want to go on to become a nurse practitioner?

like

Is it possible to transition from antitrust litigation to general litigation?

like

When negotiating salary and being asked if you currently get a bonus, would you "lie" if it helps you to get paid more? Is this considered taboo and is there any way a potential employer could find out if you weren't truthful about your current salary/bonuses? Is it illegal if you were to accept an offer for that potential employer to question you about your previous companies pay structure?

like

Which is better Capgemini Technology Services or Capgemini Engineering (formerly Aricent Technologies (Holdings)) ??

Capgemini

like

Hi Fishes,🐠🐟🐬🦈🐳🐋🐡
Let's hear about your journey, how did you land in US/UK/EU/Canada etc. from India? preferably direct hire with Visa sponsorship.
Pls do share company name & country, Job portals.
Also it would be great to hear some do's and don'ts
Hopefully it will help someone who is/are planning for migration and will help him/her to plan better.
TIA

like

Ho all!!

So I have recently got an offer as V and V designer in Alstom with 13lpa

How is the role and company culture ? Does anyone know?

I have neither heard about V and V designer role nor the company name.

like

Tinder vs Linkedin

Post Photo
likefunny

How is the PPC/digital advertising department structured in your oganization? Paid social ads and google ads, for example, are under the same manager? Or is the split by KPIs, like awareness vs performance?

likehelpful
like

I just saw that a Hubler watch given to Hitler sold at auction for $1.1 million. It is an interesting watch (despicable as the recipient of said watch was), but it got me thinking about a larger question: does anyone here collect watches owned by the famous (or infamous)?

like

I am not people person and having tough time as I am moving from 1 short project to other with no long term vision or goals . Every month new project new face and by the time I am settled , it’s time to move on . Have anyone had same experience and how do you deal with it

like

My friend just bought a Ledger. Impressive device. Opinions?

Post Photo
like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal