How do you actually find a decent person to date when you’re working 80+ consulting hours? Like seriously...everyone I know who recently got engaged or married had been long term dating since high school or college. What has worked for people?

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Yea i have the same question. What i realized after my two failed recent relationships with guys who make less and work 9-6 is that (scientist and engineer) they say they think it is a good thing initially (because i am not clingy) but then when they actually start dating they realize how much of my life is consumed by work and then can’t deal with it. They dont really understand what it is like to not have a day when you can “wind down” or get ready for bed. It is more like you just work until you go to bed immediately. They dont understand you have no free evenings really and whatever free time i have i am giving it to them. It sucks.. but i am now dating someone who actually saw me work for a whole week in person (we stayed together for a week during a work week) and now has become super understanding. You just have to realize people with normal jobs dont understand what it actually means to work consulting hours..:( hope things work out for you and me

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Oh man I just broke up with my bf because of that. Both of us are consultants, have no time to see each other especially I have a lot going on over the weekends. Talked about transitioning to a more local/less consuming career but he said he doesn’t want to give up consulting.

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