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Yes. As a male that feels like a coded word for ‘bitchy’, which is itself a coded word for woman should not be heard from from.
Would you ever say a male is ‘needy’ or ‘testosterone-filled’? No you would say ‘passionate’ or ‘strong-willed'
It’s very common that men leaders are being referred to as “a%%holes” and “d%cks” in hallway talks - can we just admit that? As a woman myself, I am sick and tired of women constantly looking for an excuse to pull the gender card and talk about oppression which men never get to do and in the end, my belief is that this behavior undermines us in the workplace.
I come on here everyday and there is a new “should I be offended by what xyz said?” topic.
I feel like if we have to ask the question then no you shouldn’t be offended. I’ve seen feisty used to describe plenty of guys, and I would like it if someone said that about me. Less agreeable people have been shown to be more successful, thanks for the compliment. Move on with my day and that’s that. Certainly wouldn’t dwell on it.
If you couldn’t see yourself describing a man with a word then it is sexist in this context
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Honestly I don't find this to be sexist at all, it's just a simple adjective.
Life is easier if you learn to brush certain things off.
I'm just saying we could all benefit from taking a step back every now and then to realize that most of us are pretty fortunate, and most of the time, people are not intending to be offensive. Give people the benefit of the doubt, it makes life so much more enjoyable.
1. Just because you don’t know or think it’s insulting doesn’t meant it isn’t
2. Urban dictionary (using this source because it explains how the word is used colloquially vs the definition) defines it as either a small aggressive dog or used to “describe a smallish woman who is either opinionated and aggressive or plucky and spirited.” Or “being sexually aroused”
So yeah.
I mean I think feisty could be used for a guy or girl, but on that note is calling someone a dick sexist?
Feisty is a derogatory term only used for females. What is really sexist is people don't treat it as derogatory. People think it is fine to use and women feel they need to laugh (usually awkwardly) at it. When you call someone a dick, everyone knows that's derogatory.
Honestly that sounds like a personal or cultural background problem. You seem to be adding additional emotional freight that the word does not carry... at least not in my experience. Not to diminish your sense of the word but I don’t think that’s universally held.
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Pretty sure anything can be made to be sexist now. When in doubt just don’t say or use it
I think it’s sexist that you don’t think a man can be called feisty
These are some feisty replies!
Why do you feel this is sexist OP?
I have. This term is not specific to a gender. Sometimes it might be better off asking the person that said the phrase what they meant.
Feisty - full of animation, energy, or courage; spirited; spunky; plucky.
I have used this word to describe men....
People call someone a dick and it doesn’t really get the same reaction though. If a guy is a dick, a lot of people just nod and agree, rarely get outraged about it.
Wasn’t saying it’s acceptable. Mainly just pointing out that the reaction is not as severe. I don’t find any of it acceptable.
Nice job cherrypicking definitions here...
The top definition, which has by far the best thumbs up to thumbs down ratio doesn’t mention that
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=feisty
My point was the way you picked tidbits from urban dictionary seemed a bit self-serving and lacking in objectivity (i.e., you just picked whatever content aligned with the point you wanted to make).
In any case, I don’t see feisty as a sexist term. Also, just because some women would feel uncomfortable, doesn’t mean it’s sexist. Many women (and men too) would feel uncomfortable being called incompetent. Doesn’t mean incompetent is a sexist word. I think too many people reach the conclusion that if you make a member of a group uncomfortable you’re biased against that group. Some things are genuinely sexist. Some are not. I just don’t think calling a woman (or man) feisty is sexist. Also, depending on context and tone, it can actually be seen as a quality (e.g. she’s no pushover, is driven, relentlessly fights for what she wants)
Can't say I've used feisty to describe a guy often, but guess I've never seen it as derogatory. Usually mean it to make someone aware that this person gets stuff done, might be a little wild and a handful to keep under control. That being said, I feel like their are more derogatory terms for women than men. Anyone can be an asshole. I look at men being dicks the same way as women earning the b word. Not sure there is a next level term beyond dick, but feel the ultimate derogatory term is calling a woman the c word.
Funnily enough, in the UK the c word doesn't have those misogynistic connotations, nor quite the same level of venom.
It's pretty much exactly the female equivalent to the d word for males.
Think of it this way: it’s a diminutive. Now décidé for yourself whether it’s good to use it for anybody - regardless of stature
The fact that gender exists is sexist now a days lol
Yes, where is the sexism?
I’m a woman and I call men and women feisty. I don’t say it in big groups but I guess now I know I shouldn’t