Just recently got married, three weeks in! We are already having problems with minor things and how she responds. I try to ignore as much as I can but when it builds up with couple of things, that’s when I I ask if we can speak. Sometimes she replies I don’t want to talk, sometimes she is ok to talk. I’m young and she is young as well. I feel overwhelmed already. I might be wrong too. What advice would you have for me?

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Do you feel like she takes your issues seriously (and tries to meet you halfway) or do you feel like she’s inconvenienced by your feelings?

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I accept there are hopefully an equal number of annoying things that I do and she does. So try and sweep some things under the rug, accept that we are different, and hope she is doing the same back. Better than bickering if you can n avoid it!

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It may just be adjustment after all the stress and pressure of wedding planning.

May be the realities of it isn’t just living together anymore and adjusting to someone else is a factor in everything.

Either way concerning that soon but communication is always key (been married 32 years) there will be rough times and love changes yoh will always have to work at it.

Communicate and do the work.

I wouldn’t ignore, I would be asking myself why am
I upset? Is this a big thing or a little stupid thing?

Most fights are over stupid things that really don’t matter in the big picture

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How young? Did you live together before marriage?

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Oh shit. I hope this passes, but it won’t without hard work (which marriage is anyway). Sounds like you’re doing the right thing (communicating) and I hope she’s mostly game for it.

So many questions … how long were you together before marriage? Parental or other support? Did any of this show before?

Good luck!! ❤️ Might be a bit early for therapy after marriage, but maybe it should have come before. No harm in giving it a bash.

Either way, you have some decisions to make. Status quo doesn’t sound sustainable.

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