Married to a confirmed past cheater
Need to leave but have had serious health problems (started right before I found out)

They said they were going to watch a game at our local HS - they used to coach alot of the players - but also said it was important OUR kid stay home and do homework

It was a sudden outing; I felt compelled to see if there was even a game.

I suspect past patterns playing out again, and I can't give the benefit of the doubt. Sad. This lack of trust is why I need to go NOW.

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Get your health and finances in order. Have intimacy only with protection. If asked why, tell him straight up you don’t trust him

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D1 I am having a hard time maintaining "the mask" so I am finding excuses to avoid physical contact.

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