My family keeps asking when I'm getting a "real job." It's hurtful, even though I know my business is successful. How do you deal with unsupportive loved ones?

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Build a business big enough where they’ll start saying “you’re lucky” or “we knew you could do it!” I’ve learnt that not everyone will get my journey/path in life simply because they don’t have my vision and it’s the same for you.

In the meantime maybe setting some boundaries will help you and your sanity because being around negativity will affect you no matter how strong you might think you are.

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Hi!
Firstly, well done on running a successful business! Cheers to that, keep it up :)

While it certainly can be hurtful not to have our family support us, I like to remind myself that that’s ok too. They might not understand, they might be scared, they might be bringing all sorts of biases with them... and trying to portray that on us too.

One thing I would bring up with my family would be - they dont need to support me but I also dont need to be listening their “unsupportive” comments/ideas - they can keep those for themselves :)
If your business isnt something they like/support - there’re plenty of other topics you can be talking about. Your professional development doesnt need to be one of those.

At the same time, I would be working on strengthening the belief in myself, and surrounding myself with people who understand me better.

That might inspire your family to start looking at your business in a different way too.

Wish you all the best!

Btw, if you’d like to connect and chat further - feel free to message me/connect on LI.

I’m so sorry, that’s really hard! I dealt with a similar experience and felt really hurt actually when they started to realize my success and began to say “we knew you could do it” when all along all i felt was doubt. Now they praise my success and I don’t want it. Family is super difficult to deal with so i sympathize for you and hope you find a way to navigate.

I know how you are feeling oP. My family said this to me a lot before my business took off but I just kept treaking along and I am so glad that I did. Just keep doing you and the rest will fall into place.

EVERYONE'S perspective of what equals SUCCESS is different from the eyes of each individual.

You don't live your life by comparing yourself to everyone in every aspect, do you?

Ask them, "How does my level of success effect your life? Are you not proud of me as I am right now?"

"I am a good person and I'm striving for goals."

Tell your family ..." I'm doing what makes me happy and I am fine with this level of success I am at right now. I hope you can accept that and just be supportive."

If they give you any more grief, tune it out, don't respond/react... Leaving them in silence with their negative comments.

Or..you do not share/chat/update them about the career stuff at all.

If it gets any worse...then, no more answering their call.

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