About to get married this year. Last weekend my partner:"Oh, I totally forgot about that - I have another property under my name in another country." Sketchy or not..? She's not super rich so.. How can someone forget about that..?

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Maybe it's for her other husband/family? Nothing to worry about. It just shows she's responsible.

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I have an investment property in another state that I forget about all the time. Not weird.

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I have so many properties I forget all the time. It makes me feel sad I'm almost never on my yatch but my helicopter is too big to land on it.

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Ok Director

Are we talking a garage in Siberia or a townhouse in Kensington?

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Isn't that a good thing ?

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She's pretty messy with her financials - that I know. She has a bank account in my home country, and housing is not very expensive there.

Depend.

My wife doesn’t know or care or keep track of the bank/brokerage accounts we have in our names. I wrote down everything in a piece of paper, and setup all online account pwd mgr and put it in her pwd vaults in case I die unexpectedly.

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A bit sketchy and a bit privileged

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In what context did she bring it up? Are you both negotiating a prenup?

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OP, most marriages that fail have misalignment over finances as a root cause. If you are equally as disorganized in yours, then maybe you’re a good match and this isn’t a big problem.

Me? I track every penny because I have a long term plan. Not knowing if a bank is taking potentially thousands of dollars out of my bank account every month is simply unfathomable and unacceptable.

If this is important to you, I urge you to have a conversation about it, because this could be an indicator of a painful marriage.

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Uhhh

Are you mad that you’re marrying someone forgetful, or about prenup implications?

If the former, how is this a surprise and also who cares?

If the latter, that’s good for you because the prenup is void if someone doesn’t disclose all their assets hah!

<shudder>

“Oh yeah I forgot to tell you I just spent $10k at Neiman and my friends want to go to Aspen for the weekend so I already bought tickets.”

What country/ethnicity is she from?

I wouldn’t be too sketched out. My parents from Asia have random properties back home

Not weird out of sight out of mind

Sometimes I forget I bought myself land on the moon and a square foot of land in Scotland while drunk. Happens to the best of us

“She’s not super rich” so she’s just rich?

OP - why do you think she is not super rich? Is it because of her spending or?! I know people who are super wealthy but you could never tell because of how they "don't spend" on unnecessary things. They drive regular cars (they can afford any luxurycar), fly economy (can afford to hire private jets), don't own designer things etc.

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