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Acceptance is the answer.

Daily Reflection 1/21

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.
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My experience has been that it takes time to build faith, and that faith is what replaces the fear. I've been sober a while, and I still have no clue what God is or isn't, but I've come to believe through experience that it's all going to be OK.
Over time, I became less and less obsessed with what other people were thinking about me, and the people pleasing gave way to a new confidence that I am the best version of me O cab be at the moment.
Another thing that has helped, and also takes time, is getting off that ego see saw. One minute I am an amazing individual floating through the crowd, and with the next breath I don't deserve a seat at the table. When I am right-sized, I'm a lot less concerned with what other people are thinking.
Rising Star
Thank you
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Oh man, the scheduling fear is real. When I was drinking, I used to flake on so many engagements, or never be able to commit in the first place. After getting sober it was a huge struggle to try to manage these new friendships and activities, while knowing I wanted to be the kind of person that is true to their word.
To help, I created a calendar in Google Sheets on my phone that helps organize my brain without getting overwhelmed. Perhaps try out some apps or techniques to see if any of them play nice with your brain.
Rising Star
Somehow I feel like I was more reliable when drinking, I'd show up and just be resentful about it. Or show up drunk and be unwelcome. But it's a different skillset needed now. And I still feel like I don't deserve a seat at the table, like IBM said.