My husband and I are 46 and 40, respectively, with a teenager from our earlier years. We've been trying for another baby but suffered two miscarriages in the first trimester. I'm feeling the pressure of my biological clock - but is it realistic to keep trying at our ages, or should we accept that our family is complete?

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Have you considered ivf? With pgt-a testing your chances are great if you have a normal embryo

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We did ivf and i am pregnant now at 40 (husband 44)

I’m sorry for your losses ❤️‍🩹.

The pressure is real, it’s the juggle of trying to be gentle with yourself while seeing time go by. I get it!

Have you been to a fertility specialist, and any reason identified by your OB why the losses occurred?

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I’m sorry for your losses, that’s so tough. I’ve always heard that if you’re under 35 and trying for a year, go seek fertility treatment. Over 35 and trying for six months, go seek fertility treatments. And over 40 and trying, start right away. I would seek help if I were in that position and really wanted a second. Good luck OP, I know how hard this is 💜

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Definitely look into IVF - my wife and I are the same ages and we're expected baby #2 soon (both were IVF)!

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I would consult with an RE/fertility clinic. Your (and your husband’s) test results are the only thing that can give you a relatively accurate picture of what your chances for another are. Have you had testing done on either first trimester loss? I have one child and just had my second 1st trimester loss in a row while trying for our second. We’re waiting on test results now but they’ll help inform whether we have other issues going on and how to proceed.

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