My husband quit his very well-paying job in February to become a freelancer. I was fully supportive of this move because he was miserable at his job. He is hustling and trying to find work but it is slow. We are depleting our savings and I am stressed about our financial health and feel like retirement is getting pushed further out. I am struggling not to feel resentful. I don’t want to push him back into a career he hates but also feel like part of being an adult is making hard decisions.

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He’s lucky to have someone like you in his corner. Things will turn around!

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Thank you!

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Have him keep pursuing his freelance while putting out feelers in the job market. I don’t see how that would hurt, plus he could land his old career that has a better environment

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I am hoping that he finds something stable that has a better environment too. At the very least, I think doing freelance for all of these months is making him appreciate a paycheck.

This is my confession. The one I don’t share with anyone else because I don’t want to hurt him or not be supportive. I am scared and stressed.

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@Op lot of respect for you. I’m glad you are very supportive. People like you make me believe in love. He will find the job he loves eventually.

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Thank you for saying this. I do love him so much.

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Keep the faith, nothing better than having someone who believes in your dreams. I hope it works out for the best!

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Wow. Adult and heavy stuff in this bowl. Good luck OP! Both of you are very brave in taking risks and hope it works out for your family.

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I get you and I struggle with the same. Wife was a doctor but she is a full time mother now and she loves it. Our daughter is a star and it’s all her, so I get the value. But the stress of financial responsibility all alone really gets to me sometimes. For me, knowing our daughter is doing well helps. See, if there is some anchor you value that can help put your stress in perspective. Hang in there! You got it

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My pleasure. Having said all that, extra money IS nice!! Don’t know why people don’t get how nice money is :p

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