My mother was diagnosed with ALS back in December 2024. The combination of being her personal caretaker, my own mental health decline from watching the disease progress, and working full time, a 7 hr side gig AND constant stress from work and keeping up with bills has caused me to have breakdowns even at the workplace. Please tell me, what can I do to try and get out of this? Sometimes I feel incapacitated, and now my work performance has gotten much worse. Antidepressants only do so much.

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Get an intermittent FMLA leave by your mother’s doctor. My brother in law died of ALS at age 41. My sister had to do this, it helped a lot. Good luck!

I’m so sorry!

I am so sorry! Maybe try to find a different job with a decreased workload?

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