My wife is being induced at the end of this week. Any parenting advice you wish you’d known beforehand?

This weekend, starting right now, try to identify the very best thing that happens. Keep a running top five. When something better happens, put it on the list.

I started yesterday at 4:00.

5. I woke up Saturday morning.
4. The roads are clear enough to travel to our first HS archery tournament of the season.
3.My dad shared some amazing summer sausage when I visited.
2. We had a child free date night
1. My 6th grade son instigated a snowball fight yesterday afternoon, we made a memory.

& GO!

My wife surprised me last night for my 30th bday (which was last week) with a get together with my closest friends I have known since middle school. Most of them live out of state with kids and somehow it all worked out. Feeling really loved.

How old were you when you first took a blue pill/viagra? Currently 26 and a buddy doesn’t stop raving about it, tempted but feels too young to try?

Pakistani people-born and bought up in Pakistan. Anyone married to an Indian muslim girl or guy?
How different were cultures?
How did your folks and extended family react?

I am 34/f pakistani widow with kids...why are desi guys scared of marrying widows and women with kids?

Why doesn't my wife get that it's just me and the great dane now. She making this awkward wanting some room in the bed.

How many of us have a teacher buddy that we hang out with, after school hours??

Anyone have to retake their NIPT test? My results came back as insufficient quantify and I’m freaking out. I’m 11.5 weeks. Not a high BMI or anything so I’m worried something is wrong with my baby

I’ve had to step away from social media for my own mental sanity as I have a major issue with comparing myself to peers when it comes to life stages. (Single female, 34, never married, no male prospects, dog mom.) As a result, I feel like I’m doing a disservice to myself professionally as social media is a HUGE communication channel. Any advice on staying away or including it in my life in healthy ways?

Any tips on helping my remote bond/feel more connected with each other?

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

I am an unmarried working man in his 30s with a southern mother. In other words I'm flying home for Christmas and my mother just called to tell me that she just happened to accidentally run into the sweetest girl from her church that she just knows I'll get along with and accidentally invited her to our house for dinner the night that I get home. Deadass the woman will not rest until I am tied down. Pray for me!

Me and my partner are not sure whether we want to have kids . Sometimes we want to and the next day we are completely against the idea . The reason we want to have kids is that we want to grow our inner circle , have more people in this world who we can call our family. And we don’t want to have kids is that it will put extra pressure on us , less freedom for next 10-15 years. Wanted to understand why people have kids or don’t have kids . Please share your thoughts :)

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

As holidays come around, the family has upped their questions about when we are having kids and why we haven’t yet. Doesn’t help that my sibling with one other kid just announced her second pregnancy. Definitely happy for her, but don’t feel like I need to explain to the whole family that we are struggling.

Anyone here adopt a puppy during the infertility struggle? Husband and I considering it to have something positive throughout this situation and thinking the extra companionship would be helpful. I work from home. Husband has had many family dogs and lots of experience with it, I’ve had a family cat before. But not sure if it’s actually a good idea - wondering if it would truly help make us feel better and keep our minds off of the struggles or if it would just add extra stress. Thoughts?

I am trying to write a stock letter to send to parents everyday that their child does not come to virtual learning sessions. I have been told by administration that even though I have spoken to parents and know why students are not coming to zoom classes, that we still need to contact them everytime they dont come. For some of my students this is everyday due to parent work schedules and disability issues.
Is anyone else having this trouble? What are you saying to parents to cover yourself?

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

Feeling really sad about friends I have drifted apart from despite efforts to stay in touch. My best friend from high school and I haven’t seen each other in about 4 years, I messaged her a year ago, got a nice response from her, and I tried keeping the convo going but she left me on read. Offered her and her boyfriend tickets to join me and my boyfriend at a concert in fall 2019, left us on read with no response. Her bday was last week and she left my bday wishes on read too. I’m so sad.

HELLO Fishes,

How is BA Continnum regarding work life balance and will there be any bonus ?

Talked to an M1 in Deal Advisory (FDD/AAS) that makes $110K in HCOL. Does that seem low/high/in-line with what you would expect?

What are Senior Managers in the southern CA area making right now? Considering a relocation.

Hello guys,

Just wanted to know about the onboarding process in HSBC. Is it virtual or we have to go to office? And also when we will be getting the onboarding mail and pre-joining formalities mail before DOJ

It would be helpful if someone clarified this...

Do any of you save specifically for vacation every year? Husband and making a case for saving about 10% for yearly family vacations. We currently save or invest 40% of our income. Thoughts? Best practices for yearly vacations?

Can people working side gigs as consultants receive deferred compensation? Or has anyone seen other creative, legal ways that consultants can work now and get paid later? I have a side gig that could end at any time, and I don’t envision it going into 2022. Good problem to have, but the side gig is bumping me into higher tax brackets this year, while next year, I envision I’ll be back to lower brackets, so I was wondering if there’s a way to delay some of this compensation to next year.

Account management role at Google or product management role at Facebook? (Entry level)

Anyone know why Fast failed? Seeing it all over LinkedIn but haven’t seen any postmortems.

Anyone hiring in the DC area? Jr system admin roles.? 9 years of DST. Want something more challenging

Hi

I have offer of 19 lpa from Cogni and 20 from Barclays in Mumbai, which one is better in terms of job security and work life balance? I know Barclays offer better brand value on resume but does it have hire and fire policy?
Yoe - 7
Tech- power-BI

Have you ever traded flowers? I only trade 1 kind- your tulips for mine... You down? ;)

Got offered a Cartier Santos w/ box at $2350 and was wondering if I should pull the trigger. Only thing is that it’s the Quartz version

Hi Fishes, Anyone please confirm if HSBC shares first conditional offer letter and after completion of back ground verification do they share final offer letter again ??

I've recently went to a restaurant and saw a robot waiter, I thought that was the coolest thing. What do you all feel about this shift in the restaurant industry?

Hello. I currently work in-house as a Legal Operations Manager. I am working on a project to expand our network of law firms.

Any recommendations of boutique law firms in CA that have experience in commercial litigation for retail/fashion/apparel/home companies? Specifically consumer class action, unfair business practices, false advertising/17200, data privacy.

Thanks for your recommendations.

Has anyone recently had success for H1b transfer from consulting to internal consulting in industry? Wanted to know If you received a RFE

Hi All,

Current salary - 21.4L(base - 21L, variable- 40k)
New offer- 30L(base- 27.7L, variable- 2.25L)

Note: Due for promotion in Dec, will probably get 10% hike.

Is it good to switch from CGI(chennai) to coforge(bangalore)?

YOE- 15 years
Tech - AEM

Made a mistake: I bought a watch instead of an iPad for grad school use.

Thoughts about associates and in-house counsel (i.e., attys with no control) unionizing? I have friends who are required to go into their offices despite 'Rona! Collective bargaining helpful here?

Recommendations for ergonomic office chair? Wfh is going to go on for awhile so want to invest. Budget is about $300

i think we have finally squeezed out all the happy-go-lucky advertisers from this bowl and digitally transformed it into a consultant and lawyer cesspool... mission accomplished

I have a yahoo email address. Does having one appear to be outdated compared to google?

Any chance firms mandate the vaccine?

I gotta say, quarantine sucks but it made me realize I can cook my own damn steaks instead of dropping $$ for them at restaurants. All most of them do is salt and cook it. Would rather make a quick and cheap version of red wine reduction and happily eat my favorite meal.

Moving to another country soon, any tips on how to prioritize stuff when packing? Gonna take 2 check -in and 1 hand luggage

Anyone have any good book recommendations?

People who have transitioned from consulting to industry or an objectively less demanding role (i.e working 40-45 hrs a week), what makes you feel good about your decision? After a decade in client services, I’m reaching a breaking point and can’t see consulting being sustainable with a young family. But I’m so achievement-driven that I’m having a hard time taking my foot off the gas; I know seeing peers advance once I’ve stepped away will be hard. For context, I’m F and ~8 yrs away from Partner

Anyone got or knows someone who got laid off during a leave of absence?

Wake up on a Sunday and the first thing I see on Twitter trending is"Civil War" along with more violent clashes in Portland, a death, people online screaming the other side is plunging us towards the point of no return.

What a great start to the day...

Want to lose 30lbs and get lean, fit, flexible and fabulous like I was in college. Considering Beachbody On Demand. Any recommendations of programs that worked for you on their platform? Any tips or advice?
I need a structured class that I attend regularly / daily, otherwise I get lazy and don't make time. Orange Theory worked great for me. I have a Peloton too.

Best place to have a 3-4 day weekend in the north East right now with COVID? Looking to book something special with my family that they feel is safe since our south Florida trio fell through :( Criteria - love being outdoors and if possible near a beach

Need recommendations for a robotic vacuum that can navigate hardwood and carpet on same floor level. Mop would be a nice-to-have.

Everyone, please start book marking your nominees for "Fishbowl Thread of the Year."

Planning prizes (gift cards?) for 1st/2nd/3rd place by most votes on 1/1/2021 12 PM CST

My money is on the "Singles in Consulting" bowl having some juicy stories.

Realized I like to sit cross legged while I work and my current chair doesn’t have enough room for that. Anyone have chair recommendations? Flexible on price

Does receiving a ‘Does Not Meet Expectations’ on year-end review with no other next steps - In this environment - basically mean I’m on the chopping block? Should I start job hunting?