My wife (married 6 years) talks to her sister on FaceTime for an average of 2 hours a day. Some days less, some days it is on and off literally the entire day. I can’t remember the last day they didn’t talk on the phone.

It is starting to drive me crazy. I have never said anything to her about how annoying I find this. We both work from home. I can hear her carrying on conversation all day long. Am I being totally unreasonable? How can I communicate this without sounding like a jerk.

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I’ll keep it simple, try and find a way to not be bothered by it. What other people do with their time and energy should not affect you at all. You’re allowing it to for some reason and you need to find a way to move past it. Their bond seems strong and that’s a good thing.

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Consider buying a new place that has an office for her or ask her to talk in the bedroom while your working. Has to be a work around.

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I just came from a 5hr call with my sister and read this.. Also waiting for my other sister to wake up in her time zone to speak with her for a couple more hours. I multitask while on the calls and use a headphone. Fortunately my partner works upstairs and hardly hears me. Initially he would be upset that I would be engaged in a call when he came downstairs to have coffee with me, but now we have scheduled coffee times where I take a break and focus on him. I made it clear to him that I would never compromise my relationship with my sisters. Especially after previously being in an abusive relationship that started with me being isolated from my friends and family. I guess we are on the same page now and he is sucking it up.

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Would you be on the phone 5 hours if you were in the office?

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If it really bothers you, you need to say something. Talk with her about it and see if you can come up with solutions.

If it really bothers you, you need to say something. Talk with her about it and see if you can come up with solutions.

Is this a new phenomenon (started during pandemic)? Is your wife not taking to WFH well and needs more social interaction? Did you move to a different country? Is her sister living close by or far away? Is she home sick?

Buy noise canceling headphones.

I used to have a coworker that would talk to her daughter on speaker phone in our small cubicle area/room. And they would just talk for hours. The problem was finally solved when we all started to work from home during the pandemic. So maybe your solution could be to go back in to the office or coffee shop or something?

Just kindly shush her sometimes saying you have a meeting and ask for her time to catch up outside working hours or watch a movie. Do it all kindly just show the need to spend a bit more time with her. She will get the hint after a while. But of course its good that they catch up.

You work at Deloitte so must be earning very high. Rent a office, work there and come back to home once done. Production and focus will increase and both will stay happy.

My wife speaks with her friends, relatives, sisters, parents all day long. We don't have a very good relationship if I compare to many other couples. We are going to therapies. One the action point from therapy was to talk to each other more often.
I hardly get time. But what bothers me too much is when I have some time, I see her engaged in phone. This discourages me to create more time for her later in the day. I am working from home. So I get out of my man-cave more often. But my wife is always engaged in phone.

I think for you it's important if she talks to you or put aways the phone when you are around and giving signals that you want to pass some time together.

I would talk to her and I hope she is selfemployed

If you try to shut this down, she might take that talking energy out on you instead! Do you wanna listen to her for that long each day….? Lol. But overall I do agree that this is too much and would be annoying. (I’m one of 2 sisters and we are very close but this seems odd to me)

I don’t want to talk to anyone that much!
Too busy through out the day. I agree with you , it is distracting for you.

have ask her to go on walks and talk so the house isn’t filled with her hours long conversation

Address your concerns and see if you can come to an agreement. Boundaries and needs relations 101

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