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I’ll keep it simple, try and find a way to not be bothered by it. What other people do with their time and energy should not affect you at all. You’re allowing it to for some reason and you need to find a way to move past it. Their bond seems strong and that’s a good thing.
Consider buying a new place that has an office for her or ask her to talk in the bedroom while your working. Has to be a work around.
I just came from a 5hr call with my sister and read this.. Also waiting for my other sister to wake up in her time zone to speak with her for a couple more hours. I multitask while on the calls and use a headphone. Fortunately my partner works upstairs and hardly hears me. Initially he would be upset that I would be engaged in a call when he came downstairs to have coffee with me, but now we have scheduled coffee times where I take a break and focus on him. I made it clear to him that I would never compromise my relationship with my sisters. Especially after previously being in an abusive relationship that started with me being isolated from my friends and family. I guess we are on the same page now and he is sucking it up.
Would you be on the phone 5 hours if you were in the office?
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My mom and her sister talk all day on the phone whenever possible. You should invest in noise cancelling headphones if it’s the chatter annoying you. If it’s something else that’s bothering you about it, look deeper into yourself
this rough, because i would also find this incredibly annoying, but i also think it’s kinda unreasonable to tell her to talk with her family less
Is this interfering with y’all’s spent time together?
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Just be honest - but remember to be loving. My husband always says "honesty without love is cruelty". I think you can express how you feel and discuss together what she can do and you can do to avoid this situation going forward and create resent towards her. But def make sure who express how it makes you feel.. it doesnt mean she is doing on purpose but it makes you feel like...
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Hmm that's a tough situation. My philosophy has always been that when you commit to marrying someone, you implicitly accept all the existing foibles. But at the same time, you at least need to talk it out to avoid going down the road of constant annoyance and contempt, which never ends well. It's also very likely COVID and living in close quarters that's exacerbating it, so it's more than fair to raise your concerns.
I think the best option would be to have a very structured conversation about precisely what bothers you and why, and to prepare for her to strongly disagree and probably need some time to parse that. I would also go into the conversation thinking of a compromise where a bit more of the weight is on you, which she might look at as an olive branch (that's the hope at least(. The key is to try and keep emotional reactivity out of it (easier said than done). Obviously you'll want her to just say 'hmm, what a great point, I'll stop talking to my sister so much,' but that's not how it's gonna go down. Good luck, hope it works out.
Biggest concern I would have is if you and your wife don’t speak for at least 2 hours or more a day and she speaks more with her sister then with you. If that is not the case, then let it be… unless you feel her 2 hours talking to her sister could go towards better usage then bring it up in a nice way. Good luck
Working from home can be lonely and isolating especially when your wife’s significant other is working, too. Have you ever considered she may want to chat with you but is respecting your focus at work? She still needs an outlet of communication throughout the day, her sister provides this for her.
Omg - I feel this might be me! I do have older kids and only talk in the late evenings. This has a lot to do with how our worlds changed post pandemic.
I hate how much my husband talks to his mom on the phone because it makes me feel guilty because I talk to my mom WAY less than he does even though my mom is 10x cooler than his. The REAL solution would be to call my mom more. The solution that matches my personality more is to leave the room when she calls (she's a very sweet woman, but her voice is grating and I can always hear it through the speaker) and get some rare, after work "me-time" in. And eeeeevery once in a while, it prompts me to call my mom. (Yes, he is a better second-kid-with-a-useless-older-brother than me.)
My wife does this too.. if at all possible I would just reason with her and request she takes those calls out of your earshot.. otherwise get some NC headphones (I love my Sony XM3s, and my bro recommends the ones that just came out).
Biggest thing I would say is just gently let her know that it distracts you and is hard for you to tune out. I say gently in the sense of no harsh tone.. I know it's hard to bring something up that's been bothering you for a while, but she doesn't know that (at least I didn't infer that you have mentioned it to her). This is one of those situations where really communication between the two of you that share the space is key.
I'm grateful that I have my own room/office now so now I can shut the door or use my headphones.. but I have ADHD and anything more interesting than my current task is super distracting...
Don’t do it. My husband used to talk to his sisters on FT all the time during the Covid lockdown. I said something. We’re divorced now.
So many comments/response to this post shows how much people correlate this on their own life. This generation of women (in my experience) has taken the complete control of mens life, literally treating them their slave/trash and do whatever they want to do without think what their spouse (men) will think/react.
Yeah you’re being unreasonable, it’s her family my dude she’s every right to be close to them
Same as if she has friends she deserves and has right to have her own conversations
Women and their sisters are an insane combo. Just have to let it go.
I would say, headphones are a great way to work in peace if you need it.
It’s understandable that you would be uncomfortable, however you can’t ask her not to talk with her sister. You can look for somewhere else in the house to work or consider going outside to work when you need a break. If you do choose to say something, do not tell her how unreasonable and unnecessary you feel it is. You can ask that between x time and y time she refrain or take it outside so you can complete a specific task, but that’s the best you’re going to get.