Not asking as a “pick me” but genuinely curious. What turns guys off when you’re in a relationship with them?

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That label is from insecure women who bully/project their own insecurities unto other women. Don't worry about being called a pick me. At the end of the day, the end goal IS is to be picked. The only people who attack others for be "pick me" are the ones not being picked by anyone.

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Women get called pic me for having a differing opinion than other women. Like someone could say “Botox is toxic” and get trashed

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The kind of clinginess where I feel like I’m walking on eggshells when I plan to do stuff with friends/family.

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idk if thats clingy that sounds more manipulative than anything

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Typically when they’re mean/disrespectful towards me

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One way relationships.

If you expect me to put in all the effort, our relationship will be short lived.

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"Pick me" is a shaming device that undermines support for men. It means "don't step out of line." There is no scenario where a man will actually "pick" a mate because of an IG comment.

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i absolutely hate the term “pick me”. i mean when people court each other, aren’t you trying to be “picked” after all lol

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Be direct, Don't send subliminal messages. Tell me what you mean/want and want/mean. Cause when you tell me its ok to leave and spend time with the guys but you really want me to stay and cuddle while watching a movie just say that. Don't say go hang with your friends and when I get home your upset cause I did what you said you was ok with.

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That's a plus. I love to be direct and straight to the point.

In a serious relationship? Lack of love. Emotional and physical connection is very important. I've seen and heard way too many stories where things were ok when the couple was dating but after marriage the woman "loses" interest in sex. You don't magically lose interest, you put up with it prior to marriage because you think it's what's appropriate but it's actually very misleading. If you are not a sexual person, be upfront so that it does not cause problems later.
Respect is another major one, especially when you have kids. Do not argue in front of the children, even if you disagree with each other. Save the disagreements for private. You always want to present a unified front so the kids don't take advantage of the divide.
And whoever is the provider, then the other partner needs to make sure the house is clean, meals are prepared and kids are taken care of. And appreciate each other for the roles you play in keeping a happy home.

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