Any suggestions on how to save a alcoholic spouse?

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You can’t and I’m a sober alcoholic. My husband my family my friends- no one could convince me to stop. I had to come to the realization and seek help on my own. Save yourself. Please seek out Al-anon meetings in your town.

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You are right. The moment I mentioned AA, my spouse immediately turned furious.

Communication and therapy

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They have to want to save themselves first.

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