Random venting from a nursing mom - why does nursing with a cover on make so many people uncomfortable? I was sitting at a table with my husbands extended family and they were making comments like...

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...”oh I can’t look in your direction” or covering their eyes. I said “I can assure you it’s safe to look in my direction. You won’t see anything.” I can understand if my boob was hanging out but I’m wearing a poncho nursing cover that gives 360 degrees of coverage. You will see more skin just walking the streets in the summer time. It annoys the shit out of me bc it makes moms feel like they are making people uncomfortable by feeding their babies. I mean, I still just do it anyway but what the hell.

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Wtf? Also, my kid thinks nursing covers suck so I just nurse as discreetly as possible. It’s healthy, natural, and none of anyone’s damn business!

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People are so flipping ridiculous I can't even handle it. Good for you for continuing to nurse your baby. I'm so happy to hear that they didn't make you uncomfortable enough to get up and go somewhere else.

If they're not playing with them or having them fondled for their own personal enjoyment then it's a problem. Give me a break.

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Honestly, I just started doing it in front of my inlaws and my dad. I know they are not comfortable, but no one has had the nerve to say anything to my face. If they do, I will act puzzled as to shy they have a hang up when the Pope encourages it and continue doing it. It's actually fun for me to have the opportunity to drive my family nuts for once instead of the other way around. Haha!

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Oh man. I would lose my mind. My baby wouldn’t nurse with a cover so my boobs have been out EVERYWHERE. And honestly I was daring anyone to say anything. If you can’t handle the idea of me feeding my child then you can leave. And what’s so offensive about seeing a little boob flesh anyway?! It really gets my goat to hear people have problems with nursing

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That’s nuts. Tell them to suck it up. With my first baby I was all about the cover. With the second one I couldn’t care less who sees my boobs. Inlaws, strangers, my brother. Once the baby is on the boob there really isn’t anything interesting to see ha ha. I feel like the more we do it the more it is a normal part of society

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Damn straight VP1

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I never used a cover, especially around family when I was in their home. They'd just leave me alone because it made them all squirmy and weird to be in the same room with me when I was nursing. To this day, I still don't get it (this is going back 7 years or so). People are just weird.

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