Really frustrated with infertility & big law. Lost out on bonus last year because I was out for multiple surgeries and partner would take me off deals because I couldn’t jump in and out (cont...)

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This year, I was pregnant and banked as many hours as possible so I could go on mat leave in july and be good for the year. Lost my baby instead and will be going back to work after my leave with my industry completely dead and my group’s inability to get our clients to give their restructuring work to us so it’s crickets over here. Feeling a little whiney but I’m here to make money (golden handcuffs, etc) and losing out on $110k over two years because I’ve been trying to make a baby unsuccessfully sucks. Really was hoping to spend maternity leave figuring out my next steps and I feel stuck for at least another year.

I’m so sorry for your loss OP.

Sorry for your loss! Sending love and strengthyour way!

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