2nd child coming H1-22. 1st will be few months away from 4yrs by then. Is xc60 big enough for 2 car seats and 3 adults? Person in middle seat will be slim frame. Presume BMW X1 / Audi Q3 will be even smaller and not in contention? Xc60 is around £28k for 2017 version (~30-40k miles) and X1 / Q3 around £22k for 2018/19 versions (~30k miles). Any other car to consider? Wife adamant no MPV. XC90 would be ~£32k for 70-80k mile 2016 version.

Last night was my SO’s 50th birthday. He’s a very toxic person with serious narcissistic ways and I don’t know why I keep going back to him. So last night at his 50th birthday party, he loudly cussed out his mother and father at dinner, then later he turned on me too. I don’t understand why I keep going back I need to move on. Please help me move on. I know he’s no good m, so why do I allow him to come back? I was raised in a very loving household, so I know what I’m worth-he not the one!

Any couples who’ve built your empire from scratch? My SO and me have a total earning of about $180K and we’re 28. If we’ve got to begin with a house, a car, then baby planning.. do you think it’s achievable with this income? I know there are a lot of “it depends” factors - but, I’d love to hear your story and see how you’ll built wealth together..

All you folks who are trying to defend the police or that 17 year old nut job. Look in the eye on a loved one and think if they were shot by the police or some kid just running around abusing the 2nd amendment and shooting someone point blank in the head.

What would you do? And then think what if these groups are being encouraged by the leader of your country? How would you feel?

How would you feel if then someone replies to your post defending all of the people above? Think about it.

I'm 6 weeks pregnant (due in late Feb) and job hunting. Assuming it's going to take at least a couple months if not longer to land a job given current climate, when would be the right time to tell employer I'm expecting?

We're having parent teacher conferences this week and this year they get to be longer since class size is down. Is there anything you wish you could include but don't have time for?

I don't want to leave a bunch of empty space unfilled if I can avoid it.

Ever get that sinking feeling when another mom is so interested in your child’s progress - because she’s constantly comparing it against her child’s progress. We can discuss so many other topics exhaustively and in depth; Why do we need to go over every nuance of what the kids are doing! They all move at their own pace, and sometimes they leap frog each other. I need tactful and effective ways of moving the conversation away from the kids - suggestions welcome!

I’m pregnant!!!! 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽

No question, just need to share. My abusive father passed away recently, and my fiancé has finally secured a full time salaried job with fantastic benefits after several years of part time work, during which I supported us. Part of the agreement we made was that when he got salary and benefits, I’d be able to take a break. Now this is coinciding with really NEEDING a break to process my complex grief (an abusive father is still a father). Complications continued.

Tbh anyone in their early 20s who thinks Mother Nature / the political climate won’t survive by the time we’re in our 60s? What are we even saving for? What will retirement look like in 2060 and beyond?

Trying to get the parents’ perspective. I am on a team where an analyst reports to me. She has a 6 month old baby at home. She frequently makes data-related errors, and creates analysis that are not helpful. My manager is unhappy with her work and has asked me to address this, but when I do she tells me about sleeping 4 hours a night, lack of caffeine due to pumping, being distracted with baby. How do I proceed from here? I understand it’s hard for her, but I have to redo 80% of her work.

Getting hounded by a Northwestern Mutual rep about a whole life insurance policy. Any thoughts on your own exp with this? Currently 30 y.o. with term life insurance with my wife. Expecting first child

Would you rather be a partner making millions and being engaged with the work or be a trust fund baby with millions doing nothing in life?

How do you enforce boundaries with family? Especially from an ethnic background I don’t know if that’s relevant but the dynamics are a bit different. I also have a financially dependent mother who refuses to think for herself and I’m with my wits end with the issues she keeps complaining about without trying to change them. I’m about to let her know not to talk to me unless she’s looking for a solution, would I be wrong? She’s been singing the same song for 20+ years. I’m irritated.

I know it’s a fun meme to make fun of brands for trying to get in on pride. And I’m sure there will be plenty of memes about going back to their old logos on July 1. But I genuinely appreciate the effort. It makes me and probably a kid in the middle of Oklahoma feel like LGBTQ people are more accepted. Sure there’s the implication that brands who talk about pride will make money, but I’d much rather have Burger King or P&G or whoever acknowledge the month and make an effort than do nothing.

Moving to NYC! Where should I start looking for places? Early 30s, want a nice apartment with places to go around neighborhood, but don't want the college kid crowds

Hey Ladies! I’m going through an overwhelming feeling. My partner and I are planning to get married next year and we’re planning to help upgrade our parents homes.. each costing close to 50K in loan.. we plan to repay it in say 3/4 years.. but in the meantime we also want to save for our homes down payment and be prepared for a child as well.. the both of us are 28 and have a job with FAANG (cumulative income 200K) in Seattle. Would you say this is doable? Any ball park number to save for it?

One of the perks of traveling is being spoken to and treated like an incapable child by TSA.

Help! I have my first client meeting, no idea what to wear. I usually do jeans in the office, but feel thats too casual. Suit seems too corporate. Any advice??

What’s a good starting hourly wage for a Cath lab technologist?

Any referrals for McKinsey & Company ?

After accepting the Oracle offer's what are steps until joining. I am not able to see joining date any where on the portal. I am immediate joiner.

Hey all. Have a planned vacation to Asia coming up (not China) in a few weeks but am wondering if I should postpone given corona. Has anyone here traveled to Asia since the outbreak?

Beyond burnt out. Worked 400 hours above the client service hour goal in the past FY. Going to ask for a 3 month paid leave of absence. Chances the firm says yes?

For anyone who has gone through Facebook/Meta interviews, how long after the execution and product sense interviews did it take for the recruiter to get back to you? I had 3 in a row on Tuesday and haven’t heard back one way or the other yet.

How much does an AAE make in LA? Recent grad with good intership experience. My friend is planning to move there after graduation

Anyone here work at Spotify? Would love to connect and chat as I have a first round interview coming up!

Hi Ladies! My friend just had her baby and I wanted to get something special for the mom and the Baby. Any recommendations? I already got normal baby shower gifts, looking for something different!

Does it look bad if you don't go to your account holiday party?

What do you think about Slack(work)? Good to buy?

Hi Folks,

Who decides tha rating? Is it sole call of Counselor?

Or based on kpi and metrics then rating is auto calculated?

SL- Technology Consulting

TIA

Can't wait to go outside when I'm finished with work!

Is it appropriate to reschedule the final round of interviews if I feel I am not prepared well enough?

So today I learned… I have a lot of anxiety attacks. I never knew it was anxiety attacks. I just thought it was normal and it was me feeling nervous and a little depressed and being over dramatic.

But I finally talked about how I was feeling with my brother and he’s like “thats literally an anxiety attack” then I searched it up and it was exactly how I felt.

Has anyone interviewed @Leidos? What to expect?

I’m about a month into a new job and I’m the only person in my small company with children. I’m on client calls all day so this situation has not been the easiest for me, and my colleagues (cont...)

Advice? My 14 month old hasn’t been eating dinner lately because he eats double portions at daycare and isn’t hungry when he’s home. So now he wakes up at 5 am instead of 7:30 for a milk bottle and goes back to sleep. Is this a phase? Can I do anything about it? (He used to have regular meals - if daycare doesn’t feed him 2x, he goes steals the other kids’ food 🤦‍♀️ other than that he’s fine)

Do you eat dinner with your kids? I have a toddler who we sit with but he is the only one eating. he gets home from daycare at 6, when I take a break from work (or trade off with my husband while wrapping meetings) to feed him and do bath/ bedtime. My husband and generally eat after he goes to sleep at 8/830/9 so that we have time to cook, wrap work etc.

My son was just doing that meditation exercise where you mindfully eat one raisin, but instead he ate the entire box. When I told him this he said “I mindfully ate the entire box” 🤣

Considering going freelance after 20+ years in the industry and wanting a little more flexibility with kids. Pros/cons? (Cont)

First time mama to be here. I am contemplating if I want to even do account anymore (have been for awhile). I also want to take off more than the standard mat leave, anywhere between 6 months to a year (have enough savings to make this happen). I just don’t want to have any regrets and jump back to work too soon & want to take time to really think about what the next step in my career should be too. Want to keep door open at current agency, as one switch I am considering is recruiting. (Cont’d)

My 2 yo toddler has been waking up at night a couple of times sometimes. I can’t function on the next day properly. I’m too tired and getting depressed. Afraid to lose my job. Tips pls?!!

Hi super mamas! I desperately need advice on toddler sleep training! Our daughter was sleep trained when at 7 months and she’s been the best sleeper ever. Now she’s 2.5 YO and starting to not want to sleep until I stays in her room until she falls asleep and she also wakes up 1-2 times at night crying asks for mama and walks out of the bed until I come in and put her down- by sitting next to her bed. If I don’t go in, she would sit on the floor outside of her bed for hours without sleeping!

Does anyone feel like they’ve had more empathetic leadership from female vs. male bosses during the pandemic while WFH with kids? I work for an all-male team and am feeling super discouraged. Wondering if I should start looking into opportunities with specifically woman-owned agencies.

Doing some market research: what word/phrase best describes your biggest problem right now as a working Mom? I’ll start in the comments.

So what’s the truth behind time management as a new mom? Cont

Miscarried my 1st. Thank god have a healthy 2yr old. Now 5 weeks preg and spotting.... Panic. Anxiety. Fear... Just went to Dr who said all looks ok!! Praying for continued health but nervous too...

I’m moving to LA with my husband and 6 year old. Does anyone know areas with good public schools? Thanks!

It's that time...🦃

What's one thing you're grateful for in your life or career at the moment?

Drop it below! 👇

Any other moms here with a husband that stays at home with your kids? I consider myself lucky but I also carry guilt for traveling and there’s a lot of pressure on the finance-side. How about you?

What are some good at home pregnancy workouts! Used to do HIIT but because lazy (and now early preg) during the pandemic

Would you tell future employers you are pregnant if it is super early? Or would you wait until it’s at the point where you are telling people in general? Or could you say something like there’s a chance I could be pregnant soon and then negotiate may leave from there?

Been back from maternity leave for four months and while I was out I got a new boss and my role evolved (not surprising, but not entirely what I want either). How long would you stay before looking?

Hey fellow moms, curious to know about any exceptionally good or bad policies from companies to help parents navigate covid, parenting and work.

My boss asked me for how we could better support parents as winter approaches and younger kids still can’t get vaccinated. Have any of your companies handled things like quarantining with young kids while still working well?

For those with school districts closed or facing an impending school closure, how are you managing work and childcare. I feel like it’s a matter of time for us (I’m in NJ) and beyond stressed.